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Judge on Custody: “There is a difference between parents who are poor, and poor parents”

Published: January 10, 2018

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Judge on Custody: “There is a difference between parents who are poor, and poor parents”

A judge in Nova Scotia gave custody of a toddler back to the child’s birth parents after finding that there would be no substantial risk of physical or mental harm to the child.  The child had been removed from the parents care by the Minster of Community Services who felt that the parent’s mental health issues and living conditions, among other things, placed the child in danger.

What Happened?

The parents in question began a relationship in the summer of 2015 when the mother was 18 and the father was 22. Several weeks into the relationship, the mother learned that she was pregnant. The couple moved in together before ultimately learning that the father was not the child’s biological father. Despite this information, the father committed to caring for the child.

Both parents had difficult childhoods and subsequent mental health challenges. The mother has had difficulties with mental health since her teens, twice being hospitalized. She was bullied, harmed herself via cutting, and abused prescription medication. The father had been subject to verbal and emotional abuse by his own father, leaving home by the time he was 15.

Over the course of their relationship, the father called police a number of times after fights with the mother, and once due to a suicide attempt by the mother. After one specific fight, which turned physical, the mother had been taken into police custody.

The couple’s child was born in February 2016. In June 2016, the province took her into the care of the Minister of Community Services citing the parents’ “multiple challenges” including mental health issues, interpersonal conflict, and unstable living conditions. The Minister argued that the parents were “poor parents” and that there was substantial risk of physical or emotional harm or neglect.

The Child

At the time of trial, the child was 20 months old. She is bi-racial. Since coming into the province’s care, she has only lived in one foster placement. The child has no unusual needs. Throughout the proceedings she was characterized as “happy” and “social” with an “even temperament”. She was also described as “healthy”, “developing well”, or “developing on par for her age” and had met all developmental milestones.

Throughout the duration of the child living in the foster home, the parents had communicated with her using a communication book.

The Parent’s Position

At trial, the parents argued that the Minister had not shown that there was a substantial risk of physical or emotional harm to the child.

The Minister’s Position

The Minister continued to argue, at trial, that there was a substantial chance of harm to the child.

Legally, under the province’s Children and Family Services Act, a “substantial risk” is a real chance of danger that is clear based on the evidence. In other words, the real chance of physical or emotional harm or neglect, or the probability that physical or emotional harm will actually occur. This needs to be established on a balance of probabilities. To establish this, the Minister pointed to:

  • Each parent’s unresolved mental health problems;
  • The uncertainty of the parents’ relationship; and
  • The transiency and residence instability of the parents.

The Minister argued that based on these circumstances, the child would require protective services if she were returned to the care of her parents.

The Decision

In coming to a decision in this matter, the judge noted that since the last time a decision had been made with respect to the child:

  • The parent’s access attendance had regularized;
  • Both parents started to more regularly participate in couple’s counselling;
  • The father was also attending individual counselling and had been prescribed anxiety medication; and
  • The parents moved to a new apartment with no health and safety hazards.

The judge also addressed each of the Minister’s concerns in turn.

The Parent’s Mental Health

The judge concluded that neither the mother’s nor the father’s mental health put the child at risk.

The mother had experienced no mental health crises in the 17 months leading to the trial. In addition, her previous history indicated that when there had been a crisis, she had accessed mental health services. Furthermore, she had extensive experience caring for children as she was the oldest of six siblings and was “a confident, competent and capable care-giver”.

The father’s PTSD and anxiety had not hindered him in finding and keeping a job. When the Minister had complained that the parents had been missing too many access visits, the father switched jobs so that he could better accommodate the access. The found him to be “hard-working and committed to supporting his family”.

The Uncertainty of the Parent’s Relationship

The judge concluded that the state of the parents’ relationship would not put the child at risk. She noted the court’s “docket is populated by broken family relationships” but that the mere fact that a family is broken does not necessitate involvement by the Minister. There must be something more, which did not exist in this case.

The judge also acknowledged that as the trial in this matter went on, the parents had become more adept at isolating their children from their disagreements, and had improved their communication skills through therapy. She went on to note that while the parents could not guarantee that their relationship would endure, the court did not believe that such a guarantee was necessary. Their improved communication skills would assist them if they chose to separate.

The parents’ Transiency and Residence Instability

The judge concluded that the parent’s living situation would not put the child at risk.

The judge noted that it had been the parents’ accommodation that was causing their poverty to be conflated with being poor parents, however, that “There is a difference between parents who are poor, and poor parents”.

When their relationship first began the couple lived in an apartment. After the father lost his job due to layoffs the couple moved in with the mother’s parents temporarily. Too many people in a small home led to conflict, which led to police being called, and the Department of Community Services to be involved. The parents moved out but were later evicted from a different apartment due to conflicts with their landlord over slow repairs and other issues.

The judge stated, about the parents:

The parents cannot be faulted for their inability to afford homes in better neighbourhoods.  This past summer, both parents left their jobs which were interfering with their ability to attend appointments and access in response to the Minister’s concerns that they were missing appointments and access.  Without earnings, they have less income and fewer housing options.  [The father] has just found a job.  His earnings will reduce the amount of income assistance he receives.  They are aware of the need to provide [the child] with appropriate housing.

Final Decision

The judge did not accept that the parents would fail to get treatment or provide services to alleviate potential harm to the child. They are aware of their daughter’s needs and seek services and help to meet those needs, and to protect her from the challenges brought on by their poverty and mental health conditions.

The judge concluded that the child was not in need of protective services and dismissed the Minister’s application for permanent care and custody of the child.

Lessons Learned

Disputes over custody and access can be emotional and very challenging, particularly if the Children’s Aid Society or the Ministry of Children and Youth Services becomes involved.

If you have questions about your rights with respect to child custody and access, contact Gelman & Associates. We strive to provide you with the information and resources necessary to make informed decisions about family law matters. In addition to our firm’s handbook on separation and divorce and numerous web-based resources, all prospective clients are given a comprehensive family law kit during their initial consultation, with detailed information and resources to help individuals understand and navigate the separation and divorce process.

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Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

It is not uncommon for someone to want to relocate after a divorce. If you still live in the marital residence, the familiar surroundings and memories may be too much for your heart to handle. Or in the process of reinventing yourself post-divorce you may want to take a new job, move closer to your friends and family, or simply wish to start fresh somewhere new. There are many reasons a person may want to move after going through a divorce, however if you have children you will need to think twice before making a big move.

Emotionally, it can be challenging for a child to move to an unfamiliar place. Often, they are most at ease in a familiar environment with access to family and friends. Changing schools, living in a new city or even a new house can be difficult on a child, especially after dealing with the emotional turmoil associated with divorce.

Legally, there are certain implications to relocating away from the current jurisdiction where the children ordinarily reside. Before moving you and the noncustodial parent can negotiate with the absence of a lawyer, a written agreement about the moce and any changes to visitation that may be needed. If you cannot reach an agreement about the move, you then must file an Application/Motion to the court to hear your matter and for a judge to make a decision before you move. Usually the court requires at least 30 days notice to the other parent of your court Application/Motion. It may take longer to reach an agreement with the other parent or get a court order. It is a good idea to give notice of 90 days before the move, as as soon as possible and to consult with a lawyer first. Upon receiving this notice, they can challenge your proposed change of residence or apply for a variation to the existing custody or access orders.

The leading case that sets out the legal test in determining mobility is Gordon vs. Goertz (1996) 2. S.C.R. 27

Similar to any other action involving variation of an existing custody order, the person challenging the relocation has to show that the move will result in a material change in circumstances affecting the child. Once this has been established, a judge will determine the best interests of the child in light of the relevant circumstances. These relevant circumstances include the existing custody and access relationship, the relationship between the child and the custodial parent, the views of the child, and the reason for the proposed change of residence among other circumstances. As with every other custody proceeding, the judges determination will turn on the best interests of the child. The judge’s inquiry is individualized and will involve all factors relevant to the case at hand.

Because mobility has become so easy in today’s society, often separation agreements or custody orders will address relocation and place specific restrictions on changing residences. Non-removal clauses that ban the extra-provincial removal of children without consent of the noncustodial parent. In these cases, the custodial parent who wishes to relocate will have to initiate the action by placing an application with the court.

If you are contemplating a move, you must consider the emotional needs of your child, as well as your former spouse’s right to challenge your relocation. Typically, courts only allow a custodial parent to relocate if the proposed move is in good faith and not intended to frustrate the noncustodial parent’s relationship with the child. Additionally, if a custodial parent relocates, they must be willing to accommodate the noncustodial parent’s access to the child; sometimes this means that the relocating parent will have to pay the additional costs of access.

In sum, if you are a custodial parent, moving isn’t as easy as just loading up the car and hitting the road – but it is still possible.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

No. Even when the parents are unmarried, divorced, or separated, one parent cannot keep the child from seeing the other unless the court deems it appropriate to the child’s best interests.

Historically, mothers have been more likely to get sole custody of their child in both consent and contested orders, as they are usually the child’s primary caregiver. However, as more mothers also work outside the home, courts could also rule in favor of the father.

The majority of judges strive to make decisions that are in your children’s best interest. Giving full custody to one parent is usually the best option, except in cases with concerns such as child or substance abuse. This typically means keeping in contact with and maintaining relationships with both parents.
You should do everything possible to prepare for the subsequent child custody negotiations, whether you’re a parent seeking full custody or shared custody:
Be honest with yourself about your ability to manage things alone, in terms of practicality, finances, and other factors. You may get the result you want by presenting the strongest case for custody by doing the following:

  • Make a Strategy: If custody is granted, a court will expect you to be ready. Compile thoughtful replies to hypothetical queries posed in court.
  • Speak with people who have gone through the child custody procedure before you. They may provide you advice and tell you what to anticipate.
  • Judges look for proof of a meaningful relationship in addition to making sure you can provide a child’s practical and basic needs. Simply put, be involved in your children’s lives.
  • Continue to pay child support regularly, whether you’re asking the court for full or shared custody. When you start the procedure, you’ll want to make sure you have a strong track record.
  • Keep a detailed log of your visitation schedule. This is a crucial aspect of obtaining child custody. Visitation records reflect how often you see your children under the present arrangements and your dependability, as well as dedication to them.
  • During all child custody hearings, the court will inquire about acceptable living accommodations. Even if you live in a tiny apartment, you should create a unique and secure environment for your child.
  • Courts may determine child custody in part by how you treat your child’s other parent. Being hostile or unpleasant to the other parent makes collaborative decision-making more complicated and can break apart parent-child ties. As a result, judges are more inclined to favor the parent who isn’t behaving badly.
  • While parents typically spend a lot of time thinking about what they believe is best for their children, children’s perspectives are sometimes overlooked. The court will be interested in learning what the children desire and will most likely question them directly at some point throughout the proceedings. You can better inform your decision-making by asking your child what they think.

No. Parenting time and child support are different from each other. While it is a child’s right to be provided with financial support, it is also their right to spend time with their parents. Thus, even if the child support was cancelled the parent formerly supporting can still enjoy parenting time with the child.

“There is no fixed age for when a child can say which parent they want to live with after a divorce. However, by law, a child must be 16 years old to decide on this matter. The exception to this is when there is a court order stating that a child/ren must live with one parent until they turn 17 or 18.

Under certain circumstances, it is possible to legally prevent your child/ren’s father from seeing or contacting them. It may be necessary if he presents a potential danger to your child/ren. If you were never married to the father of your child and there is no court order saying otherwise, you can do anything you want until paternity is confirmed.

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