We all have times we feel less capable than we really are, especially during divorce. It’s easy to beat yourself up and feel like you’re unable to deal with the curve balls life is throwing at you. But why are some times easier than others? Is there a way to head off your emotional low spots so you can stop feeling this way?
Recognizing Your Emotional Low Spots
Some people find that when they’re alone, and distractions are at a minimum, they’re more likely to feel emotionally “low.” Others find that the hardest times to stay positive correlate with times they would ordinarily expect to do things with their spouses, such as dinnertime or spending time doing something fun with the kids. Still others have a hard time when they’re headed to meet with a Barrie divorce lawyer because the reality of the situation sinks in again.
If you pay attention, you’ll start to notice which times you’re more likely to slip into an emotional low spot – and from there, you can prepare to do things differently in order to cope more effectively.
Changing Your Behaviours to Cope More Effectively
Coping effectively with your feelings involves changing your behaviours a bit. It might help if you see your spouse as a sort of habit; it’s incredibly difficult to get over a habit if you keep putting yourself in the same situations that enabled it. By changing your behaviours, such as staying busy when your spouse would normally arrive home from work or taking your children to a different playground, you can escape the emotional lows you associate with those times.
While you can’t expect to erase all of your emotional lows – and you shouldn’t want to, because they help promote healing – you can ease a little bit of your pain by adjusting your activities. If you can’t seem to shake your emotional lows, ask your Barrie divorce lawyer if he or she can recommend a local therapist who may be able to help you through this difficult time.