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Following Domestic Violence, Mother Flees Across Country With Child

Published: December 4, 2020

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Following Domestic Violence, Mother Flees Across Country With Child

When domestic violence occurs, it makes sense that the victim of the violence would want to place themselves as far away as possible from the perpetrator of the violence. However, it’s important to remember that when children are involved, taking action such as moving across the country cannot necessarily be done unilaterally. A recent decision from the Ontario Superior Court of Justice serves as a good example of this.

The beginning of the marriage

The mother and father were married in India in March 2017. The wife lived in India prior to the marriage, while the husband lived in Ontario. The father returned to Ontario after the wedding, and the mother came to Canada two weeks later. When the mother became pregnant with their child, she flew to India for two months. When she returned to Canada, instead of going to Ontario, she went to Vancouver. The mother claimed that when she arrived in Toronto the father was not there to meet her, so she boarded another flight to Vancouver where she had family. The mother remained in Vancouver to have the child. The father visited for a week when the baby was born but had to return to Ontario for work. The mother and baby eventually returned to Ontario in December 2019, five months after the child was born.

Domestic violence breaks the family apart

The family remained together in Toronto until September 16, 2020, when the wife called the police to allege various forms of assault on the part of the father. The father was arrested and made to leave the matrimonial home. The father retained a lawyer in order to gain access to the child, but the mother could not be located.

The father later learned that the mother had moved to British Columbia on September 18, two days after the assault. After becoming aware of the move, he commenced an application to have the child returned to Ontario on an interim basis.

Where should the child reside?

The court took some time to establish its jurisdiction before turning to an analysis of the facts in order to determine where the child should live. The mother stated that the father was aware that she was planning to move to British Columbia, but she was unable to produce any evidence to support that. She stated that his knowledge of her family there amounted to his acquiescence of her move.

The court found that the child is a habitual resident of Ontario and that as such, must be brought back. This direction is found in the Children’s Law Reform Act, which states that “The removal or withholding of a child without the consent of the person having custody of the child does not alter the habitual residence of the child unless there has been acquiescence or undue delay in commencing due process by the person from whom the child is removed or withheld.”

The court is aware of the restrictions in place that prohibit the father from communicating with the child, so he wasn’t granted access. Instead, the child was ordered to remain in the care of the mother alone, but in Ontario rather than British Columbia.

Domestic violence is a serious issue and a serious crime. Victims of domestic violence should first take steps to ensure their safety as well as that of their children. After safety is established, it’s important to work with an experienced family law lawyer to ensure issues such as exclusive access to the matrimonial home,  child custody and accessproperty division, and child support are taken care of. Contact Gelman & Associates to learn how our experienced family law lawyers can protect your rights against a violent or abusive spouse. Our phone lines are open Monday to Friday from 8 AM to 8 PM. Call us at (416) 736-0200 or 1-844-736-0200 or contact us online for an initial consultation

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - family violence & domestic orders

If the person doesn’t feel comfortable leaving, you can still assist them in developing a safety plan that they can use if the violence occurs again or if they want to escape later. Simply creating a plan can assist them in seeing whatever tasks are required and help them psychologically prepare themselves.

While domestic violence is often linked to physical abuse and violent behavior, emotional abuse can also constitute domestic violance. In fact, domestic violence includes a broad range of abuse, such as physical, sexual, psychological, and verbal.

Physical violence, sexual violence, emotional violence, psychological violence, spiritual violence, cultural violence, verbal abuse, and financial abuse are among the types of violence anyone can experience within a marriage.

Photographs of the scene and injuries, obtaining medical evidence of any injuries, a recording of the emergency response call, and talking to family and friends are all considered essential evidence in a domestic violence case.

A batterer is someone who physically abuses a kid, another person, or a spouse.

Yes, there they can. Domestic violence against males can take many forms, including physical, emotional, verbal, and sexual assault. Men are abused significantly more frequently than you may think in heterosexual and same-sex relationships. It affects males of all ages and occupations, from many cultures and walks of life.

While individuals have the ability to change, they must have a strong desire to change and be devoted to all parts of change in order to do it, and even then, it’s much easier said than done. Only a small fraction of abusers actually change their habits.

It is important not to say anything that makes the victim feel like it is their fault or like they could have stopped it if they had done something differently. Do not downplay their story by telling them that many people in their situation have problems. Do not interrogate them as to why they never left the relationship earlier. Do not ask what they did to provoke the abuser or tell them that there are two sides to a story. Saying these types of things will not help the recovery or escape process. You will most likely only be affirming the abuser’s threats and manipulation tactics.

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