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The Healing Power of Music

Most people going through divorce experience extreme stress, emotional pain and mental anguish – and unfortunately, many don’t know what to do about it. The good news: researchers (and famous musicians like Sir Paul McCartney) believe that music can help heal both psychological and physical pain. So the next time you’re heading to your Toronto divorce lawyer’s office, find your favorite station and enjoy!

Psychologically Speaking: Music for Decompression

Music can be used “to promote, maintain and restore mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health,” according to the Canadian Association for Music Therapy. In fact, music can reach parts of the brain that few other things can.

“Nothing activates the brain so extensively as music,” said Dr. Oliver Sacks, a neurology professor atColumbiaUniversityinNew Yorkduring an interview with ABC News.

ManyTorontodivorce lawyers actively search for ways to help their clients feel better about the process of divorce. If your lawyer suggests that you relax a bit, perhaps tuning in will help you tune out the stress of your divorce.

Music can also help you relax – and when you’re experiencing unpleasant physical symptoms, like a stomach ache from stress or a headache from nervousness about meeting your spouse and your Toronto divorce lawyers, a slow ballad can lull your body into a more peaceful (and less painful) rhythm. Strangely enough, doctors have even discovered that music can relax people so much that they can sleep through brain surgery.

All Shook Up: A Beatle’s Headache

Even former British Invasion heartthrob Paul McCartney says music can heal, citing a time that playing Elvis Presley’s “All Shook Up” cured his headache. According to McCartney, he and a friend played the song while he was suffering from a bad headache; by the time the record ended, his head felt fine.

While there hasn’t been significant research on whether music can relieve physical symptoms, it does do things like distract you from unpleasant experiences; think about a time you were on hold over the telephone and music was being piped through the headset. Provided you didn’t hate the songs played, the 10, 20 or 30 minutes you spent on hold didn’t seem quite that long, did they?

Stressing Out: How to Find the Right Music to Relax

Experts generally suggest that you listen to your favorite bands while you’re trying to relax. Research from the brain surgery study showed that purely melodic music – that which doesn’t have a discernible rhythm – caused the most significant changes in brain activity.

If yourTorontodivorce lawyer hasn’t mentioned the healing power of music, share the knowledge. Your lawyer could probably benefit from adding a little melody between appointments, meetings and courtroom appearances just like you can.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - divorce & separation

If you are litigating your matter, social media posts made by your spouse or partner may be relevant, especially if they contradict what your spouse is claiming in his or her pleadings.

For example, if a spouse is claiming financial hardship, a Facebook post that shows that spouse going on an expensive trip or posing with an expensive car can undermine such claim  and, potentially affect that party’s credibility in court if presented as evidence on a motion or at trial.

Further to photograph-based posts, statements that are made on social media by one party can be relevant if said posts (i) are related to the litigation, to issues of parenting  and/or (b) they contradict statements that were made by the party in his or her pleadings. For example, if a party who is attempting to establish that he or she is an appropriate custodial parent, then recent social media posts about extensive partying and drug use made by that party may be relevant in court, as they may speak to that party’s fitness when it comes to appropriate supervision of a child in his or her care.

The Ontario Attorney General’s website estimates that divorce proceedings can take approximately four to six months to complete, provided that all documents have been appropriately accomplished and submitted on time.

No. The law does not favour mothers over fathers in divorce proceedings. The judge will base his decision on the evidence laid out by both parties.

The main distinction between divorce and separation is that divorce ends your marriage formally. You and your partner are no longer married.
If you’re separated, you’re still legally married to each other even if you receive a formal separation, and you must continue to record that you’re married on documents.

No. You are not required to get a lawyer for a divorce. However, it is best if you retain one to ensure that you fully understand all your rights and obligations.

A joint divorce application occurs when you and your spouse both agree to a divorce and on all other family law matters such as parenting, spousal support, or division of property.

Yes, it is different. Family law problems are addressed mainly by provincial laws in Ontario. Divorce law, on the other hand, is controlled by federal legislation in the form of the Divorce Act, which applies uniformly across the country.

Divorce can be a difficult decision to make, especially if you’re unsure if your partner will sign the petition. However, a divorce does not require your partner’s consent. Although it may be a long process if your partner doesn’t comply, they will not be able to stop you indefinitely.

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