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When a Parent Moves Away

Published: November 14, 2014

Last Updated: September 8, 2025

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When a Parent Moves Away

Your divorce might require you or the other parent to move out of town. A long-distance move can be one of the deciding factors in the court’s custody decision if you and your ex don’t agree on who gets the kids. Your location can also have an effect on how often you can reasonably see your children and your relationship with them. Your divorce lawyer will help you come to an agreement on custody with your ex, and can help you revisit the issue of custody after your divorce is complete, but knowing what can impact your case is half the battle.

If You Need to Move: Talking to Your Divorce Lawyer

Your divorce lawyer is the only person who can provide you with legal advice that is perfectly tailored to your case. He or she might advise you to stay as close to your marital home as possible so that you can be accessible to your kids and minimize the amount of change they have to face during your divorce.

In some cases, however, there’s no getting around it. If your only option is to move in with your parents, or if you have to take an out-of-town job, a long-distance move is necessary. You’ll have to talk to your Barrie divorce lawyer about your child custody options if you’re going to move out of town, because they vary greatly from case to case.

When Your Ex Moves Away

If your ex is headed out of town, you’ll need to prepare your kids as best you can. In order to maintain a healthy relationship with your children, you have to do your best to ensure they have the same with your ex—but that’s not always easy. Your divorce lawyer might be able to refer you to a counselor or therapist who specializes in keeping parent-child relationships intact.

Keeping Your Kids Close to a Faraway Parent

While it’s your ex’s responsibility to maintain a close relationship with his or her children, it’s your responsibility to facilitate it because your children live with you most (or all) of the time. Tools like Skype, FaceTime and other webcam applications can serve as a temporary “visiting” solution when financial or time constraints prevent face-to-face visits, so encourage your ex to make use of them.

For your kids’ emotional health, most psychologists suggest that parents refrain from keeping kids from communicating with an absentee ex, even if it means making small sacrifices along the way. If you have to be a few minutes late for school or work, or if you’re sticking around waiting for a phone call when you could be doing other things, it’s generally a good idea to make sure the kids know you’re making room for their mom or dad to maintain their relationships.

Naturally, if your ex takes advantage of your goodwill, let your divorce lawyer know; he or she might be able to make some adjustments that require your ex to stick to a predetermined schedule.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

Ontario law does not specify the age at which a child can decide which parent to live with. At most, the Court may consider the preference of the child but that does not necessarily mean that the Court will act favorably on it. The court will consider the child’s maturity, ability to articulate their desires, and the reasoning behind their views when seeking their opinion.

If a parenting plan is included in your court order under the Divorce Act, the document will be legally binding.

In order to change your child’s last name, you will have to be the child’s parent with legal custody or be the legal guardian of the child. In order to change the child’s last name, you will have to provide notice to anyone who has legal access to the child, and that may include your ex-spouse.

In most cases, the answer is no. However, there can be some exceptions that the mother can build a case upon. These include the father putting the child at risk, non-compliance with the court order, or a history of violence by the father.

Creating a custody plan with a narcissistic ex-partner is a task best left to legal professionals. While there might not be one way to deal with a narcissistic ex, there are things that you can do to turn the tables on a narcissistic co-parent. The best way to prevent problems is to go with no contact or limited contact with your ex-partner and put everything in writing if you must only communicate via email or text message to record statements and harassment.

Let us consider that the “moving away” is relocation and not just a change in residency.

Then, let us qualify that the mother will take your child with her.

If the mother is the primary caregiver of the child, you may oppose the relocation by applying the principles laid down under the Gordon vs. Goertz case. You must present your case strongly as to why potentially cutting your child’s relationship as the primary caregiver is to your child’s best interest. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(2) of the Divorce Act.

If both you and the mother have equal parenting time over your child, the mother of the child has the burden of proof as to why the relocation is for the best interest of your child. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(1) of the Divorce Act.

If there is no Court ordered, approved, or awarded parenting time or separation agreement, as contemplated under Section 16.93(3) of the Divorce Act, the mother has the burden of proof to show that relocation is in the best interest of your child.

Note that even if the burden of proof is not laid upon you, it still recommended that you present a strong opposition to the relocation.

Yes, it is possible for your ex to prevent you from relocating with a child you share, although this will likely plan on your parenting arrangements and decision-making responsibility. If you cannot agree about a relocation, a court will decide based on the child’s best interests.

Generally, you need to provide your ex with 60 days’ written notice of your relocation plan, and you must obtain consent or a court order to move the child. A lawyer can help you navigate this process. Our divorce lawyers will guide you through the application and court order process.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

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