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Should a Sperm Donor be Held Liable for Child Support?

Published: November 5, 2016

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Should a Sperm Donor be Held Liable for Child Support?

“Doctor sues gay friend for child support, 16 years after he first donated sperm to her”

This eye-catching headline appeared recently in a national newspaper.  The article, written by Ashley Csanady, explores the unique facts of this case, and questions whether Bill 28, the All Families are Equal Act, might help protect sperm donors, such as the person featured in this story, in the future.

The Story of the Doctor and the Supportive, Involved Donor

In 2000, a man who didn’t intend to have children of his own, donated sperm to his friend, a medical student, who eventually conceived two children.  When he agreed to be a “spuncle” (this is fertility slang for known sperm donors who stay involved in their children’s lives), he was happy to help his friend and remain in contact with the kids as a member of their extended family.

Sixteen years later, the mother is suing the donor for child support on the basis that known sperm and egg donors can be held liable for child support based on biology alone.  The mother claims that the donor acted as a father-figure to the children their whole lives, and that the donor’s parents and extended family were also involved with the children.

After the second child was born in 2002, the mother and donor signed an agreement which gave the mother full custody, and stated that she would not look to the donor for financial support.

Why the change of heart?  The mother claims that the donor acted as a father all along and that she can no longer afford to pay for all the children’s activities, including child-care costs as she works 24-hour shifts as a medical doctor.  (Both the mother and the donor make approximately $250,000/year).

What are the Potential Costs to the Donor?

If the mother is successful in her case, she may receive four years of retroactive child support, along with other expenses such as post-secondary education.  The donor feels like he is being punished for being involved in the children’s lives.  He neither intended to nor agreed to contribute financially to the support of these children.

This is a thorny issue in the family law arena in Ontario.  More and more children are being born through reproductive technologies, often to same sex couples.  When donations are obtained anonymously from sperm banks, parenthood is generally uncontested.  But where couples or single people make arrangements with people they know to be sperm donors, the rights and obligations of the parties can be confusing and lead to litigation as we see in the story above.

Potential Impact of Bill 28, the All Families Are Equal Act

As it is currently written, the bill could give protection to a man who donates sperm outside of a clinic if he signs an agreement beforehand with the woman accepting his donation.  Critics of the current wording of the bill worry that it would extend stronger protection to sperm donors when children are conceived outside of a clinic, rather than offer equal protection to all donors, regardless of the location in which conception occurs.

If you have questions about child support or any other family law matter, contact  Gelman & Associates at (416) 736-0200 or (844) 736-0200 or contact us online for a confidential initial consultation.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - child support

The Federal Child Support Guidelines are in place to dictate a fair amount of child support, and generally courts are inclined to follow the guidelines strictly. The guidelines employ a mathematical formula taking into consideration the support paying parent’s annual income and the number of children and provide an amount. The general rule is that the guidelines should be adhered to.  There are a few circumstances, however, which permit a court to deviate from the Child Support Guidelines. Examples are as follows:

Where the person seeking child support is not a biological parent but rather one who stands in place of a parent. This means that a divorcing step parent could be ordered to pay child support to his or her step-children if that spouse stood in the place of a parent during the marriage. According to the Divorce Act, a spouse “stands in place of a parent” when his or her conduct manifests an intention of placing himself or herself in the situation ordinarily occupied by the biological parent by assuming the responsibility of providing for the child’s economic and parenting needs. Courts will look at a variety of factors before making this determination.

Where the child is over the provincial age of majority. This is determined by the laws of the province where the child ordinarily resides. If the child ordinarily resides outside of Canada, the age of majority is eighteen years of age.

Where the support paying parent earns an income of more than $150,000 . In cases where the paying spouse makes more than $150,000 per year, he or she will be ordered to pay the guideline amount for the first $150,000, and the court has discretion whether to impose a higher amount in child support due to the income earned in exess of $150,000.

In split custody arrangements whereby each parent has custody of one or more of the children. Where split custody exists, the amount of child support is determined by calculating the difference between the amount that each would otherwise pay if a child support order were sought against each of them. In situations where parents earn roughly the same income and each is responsible for the support of a child of the marriage, the court can decline to make any order for child support.

In shared custody or access arrangements where a child spends at least 40 percent of the year with each parent. If shared custody is established, then the court is permitted to deviate from the regular guidelines. Section 9 of the Federal Child Support Guidelines addresses this situation and provides that the court should consider the guidelines amount, in addition to the increased costs of shared custody, and the conditions, means, needs and other circumstances of each spouse and of the children. Section 9 promotes flexibility and fairness and leaves discretion with the judge to consider the circumstances.

Where undue hardship arises and the household income of the party asserting undue hardship does not exceed that of the other household . Simply showing it will be hard to make the payments won’t suffice; to meet this standard you must show that the hardship caused by the payments will by excessive, extreme, improper, unreasonable or unjustified.

For help navigating your child support obligations and/or entitlements, please contact your Toronto divorce lawyer.

Child support is calculated mechanically, considering the parents’ salaries and the children’s location. The amount of child support each parent is responsible for is usually calculated using their total gross income according to line 150 of the tax return, how many children are involved, and their domicile.

In cases involving child support, you must typically serve and file financial disclosure. Financial disclosure is providing facts about your finances to the opposing party and the court, including your income, spending, assets such as property and other valuables, as well as debts.

Yes, it may be possible for you to pay for child support directly to your child, but it’s worth noting that this only happens in rare cases. Usually, you’re obligated to pay it to the other parent.

If you’re facing child support issues, your lawyer might refer to the Federal and/or provincial or territorial guidelines to assess what rules would apply to your situation.

In Canada, you’re obliged to pay for child support until the dependent reaches the age of 18 or until the child becomes independent or feels that they have reached a sense of maturity.

There are three main factors to consider in computing child support in Ontario:

  1. The paying parent’s income;
  2. Province where the paying parent is residing;
  3. Number of children the paying parent is supporting;

In addition to the above, the amount of child support from the paying parent may be adjusted based on the parenting agreement. If the parents have a parenting agreement that provides that the child or children are with either parent at least 40% of the time, then both parents’ income may be considered.
Further, the Child Support Guideline in Ontario and the Child Support calculator must be consulted in determining the amount of child support that the paying parent must give.
It must be noted that in Canada there are no States. Instead, there are Provinces. The Province where the paying parent is located will be a determining factor on which table or guideline will be used. i.e. if the paying parent resides in Ontario, then the Child Support Table in Ontario will be used in determining the amount of child support; if the paying parent resides in a different province in Canada, then the Federal Child Support Guideline in the province where the paying parent ordinarily resides will be used in determining the amount of child support; etc.

Parenting arrangements affect child support. Under Section 9 of the Federal Child Support Guidelines:
“Where a spouse exercises a right of access to, or has physical custody of, a child for not less than 40 percent of the time over the course of a year, the amount of the child support order must be determined by taking into account:
(a) the amounts set out in the applicable tables for each of the spouses;
(b) the increased costs of shared custody arrangements; and
(c) the conditions, means, needs and other circumstances of each spouse and of any child for whom support is sought.”

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