Divorce is a taxing process – emotionally, physically, financially, and socially. No matter the reason for the divorce or the state of your relationship with your ex, your entire world has likely been turned upside down and there is no point in pretending you are going to feel normal at this time. Doing your best to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally will do wonders for your mental health during and after your divorce.
Accept Your Emotions
You should accept that you are going to experience a range of emotions and that they are all okay. Accepting and embracing your feelings as normal and acceptable, and knowing that they will pass with time is the best way to get through the intensity of the anxiety, frustration or even despair you may be feeling. It may also help with any feelings of guilt you may be experiencing if your divorce is also bringing you great sense of relief.
Talk to Someone
Turn to family and friends to share your feelings and the everyday burdens of your “new normal” as a single person. Call a friend when you are low, accept the help of a loved one when they offer to take your children out for the afternoon, and make plans with friends to go out and do something you love. You are not going through this alone and it is always helpful to remember that. If you don’t feel comfortable discussing the details of your divorce or your feelings with a friend or loved ones, there are therapists and support groups who specialize in aiding those going through a separation or a divorce.
Exercise & Eat Right
Take care of your physical health by making time to exercise and eat mindfully. Make an effort to get enough sleep. It is much easier to feel good mentally if you feel good physically. Don’t turn to smoking or alcohol to numb your feelings as they will only end up doing you more harm than good. Find a positive outlet for your feelings by trying a new sport or taking up a new hobby. Many people find that spending time outdoors does them a world of good when they are feeling stressed.
Be Kind To Yourself
More than anything, you should be giving yourself a break. Recognize that a divorce can be a time of great stress and upheaval and that you may not be up for your normal levels of productivity. Say no to invitations or requests that don’t bring you joy and try to protect your own peace by not engaging in fights and negative interactions with your ex. Remember that this is a temporary time in your life. The stress and anxiety associated with it will pass. By taking the time to focus on yourself and your mental health, it will help you to start your new life as a single person on a positive note. While life may look different, you will be happy again.
Contact Gelman & Associates
Divorce can be difficult, but it doesn’t have to be. With an experienced team of family law lawyers, like those at Gelman & Associates, you can mitigate the stress and anxiety of navigating a divorce or separation. Have questions about the process? Contact us today for a free consultation at 416-736-0200 or toll-free at 1-844-736-0200.