Now that you’re officially single and your Mississauga divorce lawyer has made it clear that it’s okay to start dating again, you might be getting butterflies. If you’re like most newly single people, you’re getting those butterflies as soon as you start thinking about putting yourself back on the market.

There’s no rush, but if you’re ready to get out and have a little fun—or find a new partner—why put it off?

When is it a “Good Time?”

You probably won’t know exactly when you’re ready to get out and meet new people, but you will know when you’re not ready. You’re not ready if:

  • you’re afraid to be alone.
  • you feel like you can’t be happy or complete without being in a relationship.
  • you want to go out to take your mind off your ex.
  • you want to retaliate against your ex by dating someone new.

On the other hand, if you want to get out and have new experiences, you want a dash of excitement or you’re just itching to start fresh, you probably are ready. The next time the kids are with your ex (according to the child custody agreement you and your Mississauga divorce lawyer worked out during your divorce) is a great time to see what you’ve been missing.

Going Out with Friends or Flying Solo?

Sometimes it’s good to go out with friends—but not always. Naturally, if your friends bring their friends, you’re bound to meet new people… but people outside your group might be reluctant to approach you. Heading to a museum or art gallery (or even to your favourite restaurant or lounge) alone sends out positive signals: you’re confident enough to be by yourself and you’re a little mysterious.

Try a little of both settings—with and without friends—to find out what suits you best.

What to Do

As long as your Mississauga divorce lawyer has told you that dating won’t affect your divorce matter, you’re free to meet other singles. You don’t have to limit yourself to nightlife; in fact, it’s a good idea to do whatever’s most comfortable for you.

If you’ve always wanted to volunteer, for example, check out the city’s opportunities in the Recreation and Parks Community Centres. Not in the mood for extra work? Play a round of golf, take a few turns around the rink or visit a few Mississauga museums.

The most important thing is to get out and do something you enjoy. The added bonus? You’re likely to meet people with similar interests. You may not find romance on your first outing, but if you pass out friendly smiles and have an approachable demeanor, you’ll at least make a few new friends in the process.