Lots of couples worry about sex. Whether they are having enough, whether their partners are still interested and whether they’re the “odd couple” dominate the secret thoughts of most of your neighbours—and if you’re like most people, you’re wondering, too. Is your sex life, or your lack of a sex life, hurting your marriage? On the surface, it may not be necessary to book an appointment to see your North York divorce lawyer, but it may prompt you to explore this further with your partner.
Somewhere between 15 and 20 percent of marriages are sexless, according to Donna Flagg, author of Surviving Dreaded Conversations. That means one in five of your friends aren’t hanging the “Do Not Disturb” sign on the door for any other reason, but for sleep—but people can still be happily married without sex.
However, the reasons you’re not having sex (not necessarily the abstinence itself) can land you in a North York divorce lawyer’s office. There are myriad reasons people stop having sex, including:
- A loss of interest or attraction
- Stress from any source, including the marriage itself
- The addition of children to the mix (and the fear of adding more)
- Fighting or constant disagreements
If you are not happy with your love life’s tempo, the first thing you should do is talk to your spouse. He or she might not be happy with it either. Before you know it, you could be leading the pack of average married couples, who have sex about 66 times per year, or you could be planning entire days around steamy sessions with your spouse.
When the Fireworks Fizzle Out: Are You Headed for Divorce?
Not all couples who have very little or no sex end up meeting with a North York divorce lawyer. However, if you’re not happy in your marriage, increasing the amount of sex you have may not change that. Talking to a divorce lawyer doesn’t commit you to divorce, either; in many cases, it’s just an exploration of available options.