Once your Richmond Hill divorce lawyer has handed you a divorce certificate, you’re free to explore your dating options. Your best friend may be itching to set you up on a blind date, take you to the hottest club or introduce you to her mother’s uncle’s best friend’s son—but don’t dive headfirst into the pool without testing the waters first.
First Things First
Make sure you’re ready to date before you put yourself “out there.” Figure out who you are now that you’re single; you might be surprised at how much you changed over the course of your marriage.
Commit to Keeping the Kids Out
Your kids have been through quite a bit, and when you start dating it’s going to be stressful for them. Promise yourself that you won’t introduce your kids to anyone you’re dating unless you’re certain you’re going to be in a long-term relationship.
Realistic Expectations: Get Savvy on Today’s Ways
Whether you were married for decades or just one year, chances are the dating scene different than it used to be. Talk to a single friend before jumping in with both feet to make sure you know what you’re getting into.
Put Your Ex on the Shelf
When you’re on a first (or second, or third) date, the last thing you need is your ex coming along as baggage. Don’t force your companion to suffer through stories about how horrible—or wonderful—your ex is. Leave the details of your divorce at home and instead, focus on your date. What is he or she all about? Do you have enough in common to spend time together again?
Tell Yourself the Truth
After you’ve been on a date, it’s important to be honest with yourself. Many people fall into the rebound trap. It’s understandable that you’d rather spend time with someone than be alone, but make sure that “someone” is worth spending time with.
Sure, dating after divorce can be a little bit scary. If you’re not ready, that’s okay; there’s no rush. You have your whole life ahead of you!
