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An Overview of the Child’s Best Interests in Family Law

We spoke with Gabrielle Pop-Lazic, a Toronto family lawyer with Gelman & Associates, on the subject of the child’s best interests in family law in Ontario.  Please note that this article is intended as an introductory overview, and not intended to be taken as legal advice. For legal advice regarding a child’s best interests with respect to decision-making responsibility and parenting time, we recommend booking a consultation with an Ontario family law lawyer.

What Are a Child’s Best Interests?

When parents separate, decisions must be made regarding their child(ren)’s care. From where they will live and go to school to matters of healthcare and religious upbringing, the ideal situation is one where the separating spouses can collaborate amicably on a parenting plan. 

Unfortunately, agreement is not always possible. In Ontario, two (2) pieces of legislation provide governance over decision-making responsibility and parenting time (formerly known as “custody and access”). The federal Divorce Act oversees decisions connected with a divorce, while the provincial Children’s Law Reform Act can address decision-making responsibility and parenting time when parents have not been married. 

The children’s best interests have always been the test for any parenting decision. However, what a parent decides to be in the child’s best interests may not necessarily align with a Judge’s opinion. Under the Divorce Act, the Court’s considerations when determining the child’s best interests may include:

  • Each parent’s ability or willingness to encourage the child to have a good relationship with the other parent
  • The children’s needs given their specific age and stage of development, as well as any particular individual circumstances
  • The need for stability in a child’s life
  • The nature and the strength of the child’s relationship with each parent;
  • The siblings, grandparents, extended families, etc.
  • The history – who has historically been the child’s primary caregiver?
  • The child’s views and preferences
  • And more

The Importance of Focusing on the Child’s Views and Preferences

The child’s views and preferences regarding a parenting plan are part of a Judge’s consideration in determining their best interests, but obvious consideration must be given to the child’s age and whether the child is mature enough to understand the implications. A court may give more or less weight to a child’s views and preferences depending on their age, their level of maturity, and similar factors.

Every child is different, of course, and individual needs will be considered. For children who may be on the autism spectrum, or have Aspergers, for example, change may be particularly difficult. Taking this factor into consideration may lead to a particular set of arrangements.

In a shared parenting schedule, where the child is more or less splitting their time evenly between both parents, the question may be – what is tolerable for the child, given their age and stage of development? With younger children, for example, it is preferred to have shorter but more frequent transitions between parents. As the children get older and are able to adapt to longer absences from each parent, the plan will likely change.

The Role of Family Violence in Decision-Making Responsibility and Parenting Time Determinations

Family violence will always be considered when making decisions regarding parenting plans. If the child is exposed to violence between the parents, this will certainly raise concern in the context of family law.

An incident of violence does not necessarily mean that a parent will not be permitted to have parenting time, nor that they will be required to have supervised parenting time. There has to be a consideration as to the nature, seriousness, and frequency of the violence. This may include whether the violence was against the other parent or against the child, whether it was witnessed by the child, as well as whether the outcome of the violence resulted in or put the child at risk of physical, emotional, or psychological harm.

In the expanded definition of family violence, we are not only looking at behaviours that might lead to criminal charges. The Divorce Act recognizes that acts of coercion, financial control, and more may also constitute a form of family violence.

The Impact of Shared Parenting Arrangements on Child Development and Well-Being

Separation is not necessarily negative for children. Seeing their parents model constructive communication in a shared parenting arrangement can be a powerful lesson, as can the opportunity to practice independence and resilience early on. While there is discussion as to the merits of shared parenting arrangements in providing that model of collaborative guardianship, the fact remains that shared parenting is not always possible. 

A shared parenting arrangement may not be the best choice if the parents are unable to communicate, or if a parent is not able to realistically spend their allocated parenting time with the child. Another issue is one of proximity – in order for a shared parenting schedule to work for the child, the parents have to live within close proximity to one another. The child may thereby stay close to their community, their friends, school, activities, and so on, regardless of whose home they inhabit. Where practical reasons make this impossible, shared parenting may not be in the best interests of the child.

If you have any other questions concerning the child’s best interests in connection with decision-making responsibility and parenting time in Ontario, or would like to discuss the particulars of your specific case, contact us to schedule a consultation with Gelman & Associates today.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

It is not uncommon for someone to want to relocate after a divorce. If you still live in the marital residence, the familiar surroundings and memories may be too much for your heart to handle. Or in the process of reinventing yourself post-divorce you may want to take a new job, move closer to your friends and family, or simply wish to start fresh somewhere new. There are many reasons a person may want to move after going through a divorce, however if you have children you will need to think twice before making a big move.

Emotionally, it can be challenging for a child to move to an unfamiliar place. Often, they are most at ease in a familiar environment with access to family and friends. Changing schools, living in a new city or even a new house can be difficult on a child, especially after dealing with the emotional turmoil associated with divorce.

Legally, there are certain implications to relocating away from the current jurisdiction where the children ordinarily reside. Before moving you and the noncustodial parent can negotiate with the absence of a lawyer, a written agreement about the moce and any changes to visitation that may be needed. If you cannot reach an agreement about the move, you then must file an Application/Motion to the court to hear your matter and for a judge to make a decision before you move. Usually the court requires at least 30 days notice to the other parent of your court Application/Motion. It may take longer to reach an agreement with the other parent or get a court order. It is a good idea to give notice of 90 days before the move, as as soon as possible and to consult with a lawyer first. Upon receiving this notice, they can challenge your proposed change of residence or apply for a variation to the existing custody or access orders.

The leading case that sets out the legal test in determining mobility is Gordon vs. Goertz (1996) 2. S.C.R. 27

Similar to any other action involving variation of an existing custody order, the person challenging the relocation has to show that the move will result in a material change in circumstances affecting the child. Once this has been established, a judge will determine the best interests of the child in light of the relevant circumstances. These relevant circumstances include the existing custody and access relationship, the relationship between the child and the custodial parent, the views of the child, and the reason for the proposed change of residence among other circumstances. As with every other custody proceeding, the judges determination will turn on the best interests of the child. The judge’s inquiry is individualized and will involve all factors relevant to the case at hand.

Because mobility has become so easy in today’s society, often separation agreements or custody orders will address relocation and place specific restrictions on changing residences. Non-removal clauses that ban the extra-provincial removal of children without consent of the noncustodial parent. In these cases, the custodial parent who wishes to relocate will have to initiate the action by placing an application with the court.

If you are contemplating a move, you must consider the emotional needs of your child, as well as your former spouse’s right to challenge your relocation. Typically, courts only allow a custodial parent to relocate if the proposed move is in good faith and not intended to frustrate the noncustodial parent’s relationship with the child. Additionally, if a custodial parent relocates, they must be willing to accommodate the noncustodial parent’s access to the child; sometimes this means that the relocating parent will have to pay the additional costs of access.

In sum, if you are a custodial parent, moving isn’t as easy as just loading up the car and hitting the road – but it is still possible.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

No. Even when the parents are unmarried, divorced, or separated, one parent cannot keep the child from seeing the other unless the court deems it appropriate to the child’s best interests.

Historically, mothers have been more likely to get sole custody of their child in both consent and contested orders, as they are usually the child’s primary caregiver. However, as more mothers also work outside the home, courts could also rule in favor of the father.

The majority of judges strive to make decisions that are in your children’s best interest. Giving full custody to one parent is usually the best option, except in cases with concerns such as child or substance abuse. This typically means keeping in contact with and maintaining relationships with both parents.
You should do everything possible to prepare for the subsequent child custody negotiations, whether you’re a parent seeking full custody or shared custody:
Be honest with yourself about your ability to manage things alone, in terms of practicality, finances, and other factors. You may get the result you want by presenting the strongest case for custody by doing the following:

  • Make a Strategy: If custody is granted, a court will expect you to be ready. Compile thoughtful replies to hypothetical queries posed in court.
  • Speak with people who have gone through the child custody procedure before you. They may provide you advice and tell you what to anticipate.
  • Judges look for proof of a meaningful relationship in addition to making sure you can provide a child’s practical and basic needs. Simply put, be involved in your children’s lives.
  • Continue to pay child support regularly, whether you’re asking the court for full or shared custody. When you start the procedure, you’ll want to make sure you have a strong track record.
  • Keep a detailed log of your visitation schedule. This is a crucial aspect of obtaining child custody. Visitation records reflect how often you see your children under the present arrangements and your dependability, as well as dedication to them.
  • During all child custody hearings, the court will inquire about acceptable living accommodations. Even if you live in a tiny apartment, you should create a unique and secure environment for your child.
  • Courts may determine child custody in part by how you treat your child’s other parent. Being hostile or unpleasant to the other parent makes collaborative decision-making more complicated and can break apart parent-child ties. As a result, judges are more inclined to favor the parent who isn’t behaving badly.
  • While parents typically spend a lot of time thinking about what they believe is best for their children, children’s perspectives are sometimes overlooked. The court will be interested in learning what the children desire and will most likely question them directly at some point throughout the proceedings. You can better inform your decision-making by asking your child what they think.

No. Parenting time and child support are different from each other. While it is a child’s right to be provided with financial support, it is also their right to spend time with their parents. Thus, even if the child support was cancelled the parent formerly supporting can still enjoy parenting time with the child.

“There is no fixed age for when a child can say which parent they want to live with after a divorce. However, by law, a child must be 16 years old to decide on this matter. The exception to this is when there is a court order stating that a child/ren must live with one parent until they turn 17 or 18.

Under certain circumstances, it is possible to legally prevent your child/ren’s father from seeing or contacting them. It may be necessary if he presents a potential danger to your child/ren. If you were never married to the father of your child and there is no court order saying otherwise, you can do anything you want until paternity is confirmed.

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