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Changes to Decision-Making Responsibility and Parenting Time in Ontario

Published: June 7, 2023

Last Updated: September 9, 2025

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Changes to Decision-Making Responsibility and Parenting Time in Ontario

We asked Gabrielle Pop-Lazic, a lawyer with Gelman & Associates, some commonly-asked questions about changes surrounding decision-making responsibility and parenting time in Ontario. Please note that this overview is intended as an introductory look into a legal subject, and is not intended as legal advice. If you are seeking legal advice regarding decision-making responsibility and parenting time or another family law matter, we recommend booking a consultation with an Ontario family law lawyer.

Introduction to Decision-Making Responsibility and Parenting Time in Ontario

There are two pieces of legislation governing what used to be called “custody and access” in Ontario. The first is the Divorce Act, federal legislation that oversees matters of parenting time and decision-making responsibility in correlation with a divorce. There is also provincial legislation in Ontario called the Children’s Law Reform Act, which would apply if the parents were never married to one another. 

Shift From “Custody” and “Access” to “Decision-Making Responsibility” and “Parenting Time”

The goal, in family law, is to reduce and eliminate conflict between separating parents. Therefore, the language around what used to be called “custody and access” is changing: it is now referred to as “decision-making responsibility and parenting time.” The terminology of “custody and access” may be seen as suggesting a hierarchy between the parents. By changing the language to “parenting time,” both parents’ time with the children is recognized as significant and important to the children. 

The old term “custody” covered two major aspects:

  1. Who gets to make major decisions for the children?
  2. Where do the children live?

The collaborative language of “decision-making responsibility” addresses the same aspects as “custody.” Under a shared decision-making regime, there has to be discussion, consultation, and agreement between the parents.

Major parenting decisions include:

  • Healthcare
  • Education
  • Religious upbringing
  • Other decisions pertaining to the child’s general health and well-being

“Parenting time” replaces the old concept of a parent’s visitation or access. Historically, in situations where a child was primarily cared for by one parent, the other parent was relegated to the role of an “access” parent, with visitation rights. The change in the law now emphasizes the fact that separated parents are still parents, and that the time each spends with the child is equally significant.

Enforcement of Parenting Time and Decision-Making Responsibility Orders under the New Legislation 

Some of the most difficult conflicts in the family courts involve parenting time, such as a parent who is not being permitted to spend time with their child. The only mechanism that the court has for enforcement is to make court orders. One way to address a chronic breach of a parenting order is to bring a motion for contempt. Essentially, this is a motion asking the court to order a remedy. That remedy can be a monetary fine, or can go to the extent of changing the parenting arrangement. 

If the primary caregiver parent isn’t allowing the child to have time with the other parent, for example, the court may reverse that parenting arrangement and give the other parent the role of primary caregiver. This recognizes that it is in the best interests of the child to have a parent who encourages them to have a relationship with their other parent.

In contempt motions, the court is more interested in re-establishing the relationship between the parent and the child than in punishing the parent who has not allowed that relationship to continue. Often, when one parent brings forward a motion of contempt to enforce a parenting order, the first thing the court will do is give the other parent an opportunity to “purge the contempt” – to correct the behaviour that would otherwise lead to a contempt finding. This can create a frustrating and expensive process for those trying to enforce contempt orders against a parent who is intransigent in their desire to violate them. 

The Need for Ongoing Support and Resources for Families Navigating Decision-Making Responsibility and Parenting Time Issues

Families going through the process of separation have likely never done this before, and do not know how best to proceed. In our initial consultation with new clients, we typically offer an overview of the legal issues they should understand. As part of that education, there has to be a recognition that there is a relatively well-defined range of possible outcomes. 

Parents may say or do things inadvertently that may have an impact on their children. Often, when we see negative consequences, it is not because of alienation or an active intention to harm a relationship between a parent and their child, but arises out of simply not knowing what to do. Education and resources may help parents not only communicate with their children, but also to manage conflicts that arise with the other parent. 

The Future of Decision-Making Responsibility and Parenting Time in Ontario

One issue that has been discussed and debated is whether shared parenting should become the default in matters of decision-making responsibility and parenting time. There are positive and negative consequences to a shift such as this. The law tries to protect children from circumstances where the parents are unable to collaborate, in which case shared parenting may not be the best option. For the time being, shared parenting is not the presumptive outcome in Ontario.

If you have any other questions concerning decision-making responsibility and parenting time in Ontario, or would like to discuss the particulars of your specific case, contact us to schedule a consultation with Gelman & Associates today.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

Ontario law does not specify the age at which a child can decide which parent to live with. At most, the Court may consider the preference of the child but that does not necessarily mean that the Court will act favorably on it. The court will consider the child’s maturity, ability to articulate their desires, and the reasoning behind their views when seeking their opinion.

If a parenting plan is included in your court order under the Divorce Act, the document will be legally binding.

In order to change your child’s last name, you will have to be the child’s parent with legal custody or be the legal guardian of the child. In order to change the child’s last name, you will have to provide notice to anyone who has legal access to the child, and that may include your ex-spouse.

In most cases, the answer is no. However, there can be some exceptions that the mother can build a case upon. These include the father putting the child at risk, non-compliance with the court order, or a history of violence by the father.

Creating a custody plan with a narcissistic ex-partner is a task best left to legal professionals. While there might not be one way to deal with a narcissistic ex, there are things that you can do to turn the tables on a narcissistic co-parent. The best way to prevent problems is to go with no contact or limited contact with your ex-partner and put everything in writing if you must only communicate via email or text message to record statements and harassment.

Let us consider that the “moving away” is relocation and not just a change in residency.

Then, let us qualify that the mother will take your child with her.

If the mother is the primary caregiver of the child, you may oppose the relocation by applying the principles laid down under the Gordon vs. Goertz case. You must present your case strongly as to why potentially cutting your child’s relationship as the primary caregiver is to your child’s best interest. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(2) of the Divorce Act.

If both you and the mother have equal parenting time over your child, the mother of the child has the burden of proof as to why the relocation is for the best interest of your child. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(1) of the Divorce Act.

If there is no Court ordered, approved, or awarded parenting time or separation agreement, as contemplated under Section 16.93(3) of the Divorce Act, the mother has the burden of proof to show that relocation is in the best interest of your child.

Note that even if the burden of proof is not laid upon you, it still recommended that you present a strong opposition to the relocation.

Yes, it is possible for your ex to prevent you from relocating with a child you share, although this will likely plan on your parenting arrangements and decision-making responsibility. If you cannot agree about a relocation, a court will decide based on the child’s best interests.

Generally, you need to provide your ex with 60 days’ written notice of your relocation plan, and you must obtain consent or a court order to move the child. A lawyer can help you navigate this process. Our divorce lawyers will guide you through the application and court order process.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

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