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Changing a Child’s Name After Separation or Divorce

Published: November 23, 2017

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Changing a Child’s Name After Separation or Divorce

An Ontario court recently grappled with the interesting question of when it is and is not appropriate for a parent to be prohibited from changing the name(s) of their children after a separation. As we’ve explored previously, this is often a source of tension for separating parents. In this case, the court allowed the mother of the children to change their names, despite the father’s request for an order prohibiting her from doing so.

What Happened?

The parties began living together in November 2009, and separated in October 2015. They had three children together, aged 6, 4 and 3. The mother also had two children from a previous marriage, who were aged 13 and 16.

The parties had already resolved all parenting and financial issues. However, there was one issue that remained: the mother wished to change the children’s names. The father did not want this to happen and asked the court to prohibit the mother from changing the children’s names.

The parties agreed to a focused hearing on this final matter.

Changing a Child’s Name in Ontario: The Law

Section 28(1)(b) of the Children’s Law Reform Act (CLRA) gives the Ontario Court of Justice statutory authority to determine any aspect of the incidents of the right to custody or access. Under this section of the act, the court can prohibit a party from changing a child’s name as an incident of custody. In such cases the test is whether or not such an the order would be in the child’s best interests.

Section 5(1) of the Change of Name Act permits a custodial parent to apply to the Registrar General to change a child’s name, unless a court order or separation agreement prohibits the change. As a result, the parent who is contesting a name change (in this case, the father) must seek an order prohibiting such a change.

Courts must consider a whole host of factors in determining whether a prohibition of a name change is in a child’s best interests. These factors include:

  • Whether the proposed name change will exclude the name of the non-custodial parent.
  • The length of time a custodial parent has had sole custody of the child.
  • Whether there is a continuing close relationship between the child and the non-custodial parent.
  • Whether there would be any serious effect on the non-custodial parent.
  • Whether either parent has displayed any malice or improper motivation.
  • The age of the child and the weight to be given to the child’s wishes, in light of that age.
  • The length of time the child has had his/her name.
  • The surnames of any siblings.

The Court’s Decision

In this case, the court set the stage by explaining that a child’s surname is important, as it “speaks to who the person is, and is not simply a convenient means of identification.”

When it considered the facts of this specific case, the court found that the mother was acting in good faith with respect to the proposed name change. The court noted that it was understandable that the mother would like the children to share her surname, as she wanted them to be publicly identified as much as her children as those of the father.

While the father submitted that the proposed name change would diminish his connection with the children, the court determined that there was no objective evidence to support this allegation. As the mother did not seek to eliminate the father’s surname (rather, she only sought to add her own), the court found that the proposed name change would not have a serious adverse effect on the father.

The court also determined that changing the children’s names would not be confusing to third parties associated with the children. It noted, for example, that medical professionals and service providers could amend their records without difficulty, and that friends could just be told about the change.

In balancing the parties’ positions, the court considered some factors that did support the father’s claim that the order he was seeking was in the children’s best interests, including:

  • The children had always had his last name.
  • There may be some short-term adjustment for the children as they adapted to a new name.
  • The parties agreed to the children’s names at birth.

However, the court determined that the above-noted factors were outweighed by other considerations, including:

  • The children were of mixed race and did not share the mother’s surname. As a result, there was some risk of the children’s medical treatment being delayed, and there was also a real risk of delay and difficulties when crossing the border with the children, as the mother was often required to go to great lengths to explain that she was their mother. None of this was in the children’s best interests, and could be remedied if the children shared the mother’s surname.
  • The mother had been the children’s primary caregiver and their custodial parent since shortly after the parties’ separation. The evidence supported a finding that her desire to change the children’s surnames was a responsible decision.
  • It was an equally important part of the children’s identity to be able to share in their mother’s surname, to reflect the closeness of their relationship with her.

In the circumstances, the court concluded that it was in the children’s best interests not to prohibit the proposed name changes by the mother.

Lessons Learned

There are many factors a judge will consider if you or your ex-spouse wish to prohibit one another from changing a child’s name after a separation or divorce. At Gelman & Associates, we can help you understand your rights and navigate the court system. In addition to our firm’s separation and divorce handbook and numerous web-based resources, all prospective clients are given a comprehensive family law kit during their initial consultation, with ample information and resources to help individuals understand and navigate the separation and divorce process. Our phone lines are open Monday to Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. Call us at (416) 736-0200 or 1-844-736-0200, or contact us online for a confidential initial consultation.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

It is not uncommon for someone to want to relocate after a divorce. If you still live in the marital residence, the familiar surroundings and memories may be too much for your heart to handle. Or in the process of reinventing yourself post-divorce you may want to take a new job, move closer to your friends and family, or simply wish to start fresh somewhere new. There are many reasons a person may want to move after going through a divorce, however if you have children you will need to think twice before making a big move.

Emotionally, it can be challenging for a child to move to an unfamiliar place. Often, they are most at ease in a familiar environment with access to family and friends. Changing schools, living in a new city or even a new house can be difficult on a child, especially after dealing with the emotional turmoil associated with divorce.

Legally, there are certain implications to relocating away from the current jurisdiction where the children ordinarily reside. Before moving you and the noncustodial parent can negotiate with the absence of a lawyer, a written agreement about the moce and any changes to visitation that may be needed. If you cannot reach an agreement about the move, you then must file an Application/Motion to the court to hear your matter and for a judge to make a decision before you move. Usually the court requires at least 30 days notice to the other parent of your court Application/Motion. It may take longer to reach an agreement with the other parent or get a court order. It is a good idea to give notice of 90 days before the move, as as soon as possible and to consult with a lawyer first. Upon receiving this notice, they can challenge your proposed change of residence or apply for a variation to the existing custody or access orders.

The leading case that sets out the legal test in determining mobility is Gordon vs. Goertz (1996) 2. S.C.R. 27

Similar to any other action involving variation of an existing custody order, the person challenging the relocation has to show that the move will result in a material change in circumstances affecting the child. Once this has been established, a judge will determine the best interests of the child in light of the relevant circumstances. These relevant circumstances include the existing custody and access relationship, the relationship between the child and the custodial parent, the views of the child, and the reason for the proposed change of residence among other circumstances. As with every other custody proceeding, the judges determination will turn on the best interests of the child. The judge’s inquiry is individualized and will involve all factors relevant to the case at hand.

Because mobility has become so easy in today’s society, often separation agreements or custody orders will address relocation and place specific restrictions on changing residences. Non-removal clauses that ban the extra-provincial removal of children without consent of the noncustodial parent. In these cases, the custodial parent who wishes to relocate will have to initiate the action by placing an application with the court.

If you are contemplating a move, you must consider the emotional needs of your child, as well as your former spouse’s right to challenge your relocation. Typically, courts only allow a custodial parent to relocate if the proposed move is in good faith and not intended to frustrate the noncustodial parent’s relationship with the child. Additionally, if a custodial parent relocates, they must be willing to accommodate the noncustodial parent’s access to the child; sometimes this means that the relocating parent will have to pay the additional costs of access.

In sum, if you are a custodial parent, moving isn’t as easy as just loading up the car and hitting the road – but it is still possible.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

No. Even when the parents are unmarried, divorced, or separated, one parent cannot keep the child from seeing the other unless the court deems it appropriate to the child’s best interests.

Historically, mothers have been more likely to get sole custody of their child in both consent and contested orders, as they are usually the child’s primary caregiver. However, as more mothers also work outside the home, courts could also rule in favor of the father.

The majority of judges strive to make decisions that are in your children’s best interest. Giving full custody to one parent is usually the best option, except in cases with concerns such as child or substance abuse. This typically means keeping in contact with and maintaining relationships with both parents.
You should do everything possible to prepare for the subsequent child custody negotiations, whether you’re a parent seeking full custody or shared custody:
Be honest with yourself about your ability to manage things alone, in terms of practicality, finances, and other factors. You may get the result you want by presenting the strongest case for custody by doing the following:

  • Make a Strategy: If custody is granted, a court will expect you to be ready. Compile thoughtful replies to hypothetical queries posed in court.
  • Speak with people who have gone through the child custody procedure before you. They may provide you advice and tell you what to anticipate.
  • Judges look for proof of a meaningful relationship in addition to making sure you can provide a child’s practical and basic needs. Simply put, be involved in your children’s lives.
  • Continue to pay child support regularly, whether you’re asking the court for full or shared custody. When you start the procedure, you’ll want to make sure you have a strong track record.
  • Keep a detailed log of your visitation schedule. This is a crucial aspect of obtaining child custody. Visitation records reflect how often you see your children under the present arrangements and your dependability, as well as dedication to them.
  • During all child custody hearings, the court will inquire about acceptable living accommodations. Even if you live in a tiny apartment, you should create a unique and secure environment for your child.
  • Courts may determine child custody in part by how you treat your child’s other parent. Being hostile or unpleasant to the other parent makes collaborative decision-making more complicated and can break apart parent-child ties. As a result, judges are more inclined to favor the parent who isn’t behaving badly.
  • While parents typically spend a lot of time thinking about what they believe is best for their children, children’s perspectives are sometimes overlooked. The court will be interested in learning what the children desire and will most likely question them directly at some point throughout the proceedings. You can better inform your decision-making by asking your child what they think.

No. Parenting time and child support are different from each other. While it is a child’s right to be provided with financial support, it is also their right to spend time with their parents. Thus, even if the child support was cancelled the parent formerly supporting can still enjoy parenting time with the child.

“There is no fixed age for when a child can say which parent they want to live with after a divorce. However, by law, a child must be 16 years old to decide on this matter. The exception to this is when there is a court order stating that a child/ren must live with one parent until they turn 17 or 18.

Under certain circumstances, it is possible to legally prevent your child/ren’s father from seeing or contacting them. It may be necessary if he presents a potential danger to your child/ren. If you were never married to the father of your child and there is no court order saying otherwise, you can do anything you want until paternity is confirmed.

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