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Grandparents Unsuccessfully Fight for Custody of Children

Published: July 3, 2018

Last Updated: March 24, 2026

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Grandparents Unsuccessfully Fight for Custody of Children

In a recent Ontario case, the court had to determine whether a father should have interim custody of his two children or whether the children should continue to live with their grandparents.

The Facts

The parties were married in November 2010 and separated in November 2016. They had two children, born in 2011 and 2014.

The parties’ separation had been rife with allegations of abuse and mental health issues. In November 2016, the mother was awarded interim custody of the children. A restraining order was issued, and the father was denied access.

In June 2017, the father was granted access to the children every second weekend from Friday to Sunday, as well as for a few hours every Wednesday.

Since the mother’s untimely passing in January 2018, the children had been living with their maternal grandparents.

The father subsequently brought a motion for interim custody of the children. 

The Father’s Position

The father wanted the children to return to his care and reside with him in the matrimonial home. He reasoned that he was a main caregiver before the parties’ separation and that there was no verified reason to restrict his time with the children.

The Grandparents’ Position

The grandparents argued that the children should continue to live with them, as they needed stability and continuity. They also claimed that serious concerns existed about the father’s ability to care for the children on a full-time basis.

The Governing Legal Principles

The court began by outlining that the relevant legislation with respect to applications for custody includes sections 20, 21, 21.1 and 21.2 of the Children’s Law Reform Act (CLRA). Among other things, these sections of the CLRA provide that a child’s parents are equally entitled to custody of the child. It also indicates that any person – including a grandparent – may apply for an order for custody of or access to a child.

The court went on to explain that section 24 of the CLRA sets out the factors it must consider when determining what is in the children’s best interest. These factors include:

  • the love, affection and emotional ties between the child and other people;
  • the child’s views and preferences;
  • the length of time the child has lived in a stable home environment;
  • whether the person applying for custody can provide the child with guidance and education, the necessaries of life and any special needs of the child;
  • the plan being proposed for the child’s care and upbringing;
  • the permanence and stability of the family unit the child will be living in;
  • the ability of the person applying for custody to act as a parent; and
  • any familial relationship between the child and the people who are parties to the custody application.

Further, in determining an application for custody, the court outlined that it must consider a person’s past conduct if the person has committed violence or abuse against their spouse, a member of their household, a parent of the child, or any child. The court indicated that the only other time it will consider a person’s past conduct is if it believes the person’s conduct is somehow relevant to their ability to act as a parent.

The Court’s Decision: Determining the Best Interests of the Children

Firstly, the court found that there was a strong emotional bond between the children and the maternal grandparents. The court also concluded, however, that the father was bonded to the children. The father’s relationship with the children was positive, and the children spoke well of him.

Secondly, the court noted that while the grandparents had been nurturing and good caregivers to the children, the father was also a fit and capable parent. While the mother had raised many accusations against the father, the police and Children’s Aid Society had not verified those allegations.

The court went on to conclude that the father’s request to unite his family unit was a viable consideration and in the children’s best interests. While the children had been living with the grandparents since January 2018, the court noted that the status quo was not the only factor it had to consider in determining the children’s best interests. The court also found that the father was capable of appropriately addressing the children’s needs.

While the grandparents had gone above and beyond the call of duty in helping with the children, in the end, the court awarded interim sole custody to the father, stating that:

it is now time for the children to return to their father’s care in their home. It is in their best interests that there be a short-term interruption to move back to their home with the father for the sake of long term stability.

The court explained that the legislation clearly prioritizes granting custody to parents whenever appropriate. As a result, courts have been guided by the principle that, “the welfare of the child is best served in the custody of its natural parent.”

Lessons Learned

Absent extenuating circumstances, courts have found that parents should have a preferential status in claims for custody. Indeed, as far back as 1987, the Supreme Court of Canada stated:

A third person who wishes to obtain custody of a child must rebut the presumption to the effect that the parent is in a better position to ensure the child’s well-being. He must establish on a balance of probabilities that the development of the child is likely to be compromised if he or she remains with the father or mother or returns to live with them. The third person must also show that, unlike the person having parental authority he or she is able to provide the care and affection needed by the child.

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Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

Ontario law does not specify the age at which a child can decide which parent to live with. At most, the Court may consider the preference of the child but that does not necessarily mean that the Court will act favorably on it. The court will consider the child’s maturity, ability to articulate their desires, and the reasoning behind their views when seeking their opinion.

If a parenting plan is included in your court order under the Divorce Act, the document will be legally binding.

In order to change your child’s last name, you will have to be the child’s parent with legal custody or be the legal guardian of the child. In order to change the child’s last name, you will have to provide notice to anyone who has legal access to the child, and that may include your ex-spouse.

In most cases, the answer is no. However, there can be some exceptions that the mother can build a case upon. These include the father putting the child at risk, non-compliance with the court order, or a history of violence by the father.

Creating a custody plan with a narcissistic ex-partner is a task best left to legal professionals. While there might not be one way to deal with a narcissistic ex, there are things that you can do to turn the tables on a narcissistic co-parent. The best way to prevent problems is to go with no contact or limited contact with your ex-partner and put everything in writing if you must only communicate via email or text message to record statements and harassment.

Let us consider that the “moving away” is relocation and not just a change in residency.

Then, let us qualify that the mother will take your child with her.

If the mother is the primary caregiver of the child, you may oppose the relocation by applying the principles laid down under the Gordon vs. Goertz case. You must present your case strongly as to why potentially cutting your child’s relationship as the primary caregiver is to your child’s best interest. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(2) of the Divorce Act.

If both you and the mother have equal parenting time over your child, the mother of the child has the burden of proof as to why the relocation is for the best interest of your child. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(1) of the Divorce Act.

If there is no Court ordered, approved, or awarded parenting time or separation agreement, as contemplated under Section 16.93(3) of the Divorce Act, the mother has the burden of proof to show that relocation is in the best interest of your child.

Note that even if the burden of proof is not laid upon you, it still recommended that you present a strong opposition to the relocation.

Yes, it is possible for your ex to prevent you from relocating with a child you share, although this will likely plan on your parenting arrangements and decision-making responsibility. If you cannot agree about a relocation, a court will decide based on the child’s best interests.

Generally, you need to provide your ex with 60 days’ written notice of your relocation plan, and you must obtain consent or a court order to move the child. A lawyer can help you navigate this process. Our divorce lawyers will guide you through the application and court order process.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

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