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My Ex Maxed Out My Credit Cards During Divorce

Published: May 15, 2013

Last Updated: September 12, 2025

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My Ex Maxed Out My Credit Cards During Divorce

It’s unfortunate, but it happens: one spouse takes advantage of the other during a divorce and drains the family’s financial resources by making selfish, and often unjustifiable, purchases. When this happens, your credit can suffer serious damage that’s not always easy to repair. The first step is to call your North York divorce lawyer as soon as you discover the spending. Your lawyer can help you understand the situation and take steps to fix it right away.

Your Ex and Your Credit

Your North York divorce lawyer might recommend that you separate all your joint accounts as soon as possible. If you’ve already done that and your ex has used your credit cards fraudulently, you’re facing an entirely different situation; if you haven’t, your lawyer will probably encourage you to come to an agreement with your ex about the distribution of the debt and plans for its repayment. In some cases, parties can’t come to an agreement on their own and the court needs to step in.

Fast Damage Control

Talk to your lawyer before you do anything to make sure you won’t negatively affect your case. Your lawyer might suggest that you:

  • Call your creditors. Sometimes explaining your situation can encourage your creditors to give you more time before demanding repayment, which allows you the chance to work things out with your spouse or wait on the court’s decision without damaging your standing.
  • Cancel your credit cards. If your ex still has access to your cards or account numbers, your North York divorce lawyer might suggest that you cancel them to prevent further use and minimize the financial damage.
  • Report your ex for using your cards fraudulently. You can only report your ex for fraud if he or she is genuinely unauthorized to use your credit lines. Check with your North York divorce lawyer before you accuse your ex of fraud, because the consequences are very severe and could harm your case—especially if your accusation isn’t founded on the truth.

Digging Yourself out of Your Ex’s Debt

Your North York divorce lawyer will fight for your rights under the law. He or she might recommend that you talk with a financial adviser who can help you sort out your debts, both marital and individual, and can help you create a repayment plan that fits within your budget.

Make sure your lawyer has an accurate picture of your financial situation by keeping all your credit card statements, bills and other financial documents on-hand. That way, he or she can help protect you from your ex’s bad financial decisions during and after your divorce.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - property division

If the divorce proceeding is already happening and you do not have a prenuptial, post nuptial, or any other agreement with your spouse outside the divorce proceeding that shields your business from the effects of the divorce, chances are your business may have already been listed as part of the marital or family assets that will be subjected to distribution between you and your spouse.

It is advisable to consult your lawyer or let your lawyer represent or negotiate on your behalf about that matter instead of doing it by yourself.

Arbitrary dissolution or cessation of the business during the divorce process may be construed by your spouse, the mediator, or the judge, as bad faith on your part which may negatively impact the outcome of the distribution of assets in your divorce.

Future inheritances are not taken into account when dealing with the financial aspects of a divorce, but if it is expected that the person making the bequest will die in the near future, and if the inheritance is likely to be substantial, it may be.

You can only sell the matrimonial home with the consent of both spouses.

Under Ontario Law, marriage is considered an equal partnership and it follows that when a marriage comes to an end, the law requires an equal division of the property. The general rule is when a marriage ends, the value of all property acquired during your marriage and maintained through the separation should be divided between equally between the parties.

New rules for pension division upon the breakdown of spousal relationships came into force in Ontario as a result of amendments to the Ontario Family Law Act and Pension Benefits Act. Pursuant to the Family Law Act, the imputed value of married spouses’ pension assets constitutes property. Married spouses who decide to end their marriage are legally entitled to an equalization of pension assets and other property that they have amassed together during the marriage. If you are contemplating separation or divorce in Ontario, it is critical to receive legal advice about the division of pension assets in order to ensure you understand and protect your rights.

The new rules in Ontario for pension division apply to all spouses whose relationship has broken down, unless a court order, family arbitration award or domestic contract provides otherwise. Under this new regime, pension plan members and their spouses may apply to the plan’s administrator for a statement of the imputed value of each spouse’s pension benefits, deferred pension or pension. The pension administrator will first calculate the total value of the pension up to the family law valuation date. The administrator will then calculate what portion of the preliminary value of a pension is attributable to the period of the marriage, i.e. the imputed value of a spouse’s interest in a pension plan.

Once the value of pension is calculated, the value will be included in the pension holder’s net family property, along with his/her other assets, for the purpose of calculating the equalization payment. After the equalization payment is calculated, up to 50% of the value of the pension may be transferred from one spouse to another in order to satisfy the equalization payment in whole or in part.

Contact Gelman & Associates to learn how experienced, forward-thinking, family law lawyers can ensure your pension entitlements are protected during separation or divorce. Call us at (844) 736-0200 or contact us online for a confidential initial consultation.

There are many ways for you to keep your inheritance separate from your spouse, such as saving all proof, like photos and records, that show that the estate was intended for you alone.

It is illegal to hide money or assets from your spouse in the case of a divorce.

The best way to protect your business during a divorce is to designate it as separate property in a prenuptial agreement. Your pre-nuptial agreement will serve as a protection because it ensures that your business is still a separate entity no matter how much your spouse contributes.

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