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The Status Quo and Shared Parenting Arrangements

Published: October 27, 2017

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The Status Quo and Shared Parenting Arrangements

An Ontario court recently considered a contested interim parenting arrangement. In making a final decision on care and control of the child in question, the court had to determine what the status quo was in relation to custody and access of the child prior to her parent’s separation.

What Happened?

The party’s relationship began in January 2011. The child question was born in July 2014. The parties married in April 2015, and separated in May 2016.

After several motions filed by both parties, they obtained an interim order outlining a schedule for care and control of their child post-separation. This order was subsequently contested. Throughout the later proceedings, the wife testified that the husband had problems with alcohol and that he was abusive towards her. She claimed she was the child’s primary caregiver. The mother wanted the parenting “status quo” to continue.

In contrast, the husband brought in friends and family to testify to his character. These friends and family (including the wife’s sister) described him as an excellent father and all deposed that he had no issues with alcohol or domestic violence. Evidence was provided about the “definite bond between father and daughter that is very strong”, that the daughter “idolizes her daddy”, and that the husband should be involved in all aspects of the daughter’s life. The father sought an order for joint custody, wanting shared parenting on either a split week or week on/week off basis.

Custody, Access, and the Status Quo

The legal principles applicable to custody and access and set out in s.16(1) of Divorce Act and section 24(2) Children’s Law Reform Act.

The Divorce Act outlines the factors to be considered in making a custody and access order, whereas the Children’s Law Reform Act outlines factors to be reviewed in determining what is in the best interests of a child.

In addition to the factors outlined in legislation, which a court must consider in making decisions with respect to children, a court must also determine what the “status quo” is regarding custody and access.

With respect to what constitutes the “status quo”, the court noted:

In determining the issue of whether the status quo respecting decision-making and timesharing should be changed in the context of a motion for temporary relief, it is important to maintain a focus on what is meant by the status quo. The courts have clarified that the phrase status quo with respect to timesharing does not refer to a situation unreasonably created by one party after separation to create a tactical advantage in the litigation… This court has held in many cases that the status quo that is relevant on temporary custody and access motions is that which existed prior to the separation between the parties…In my view, for the purposes of applying the principles set out in Papp v. Papp regarding the strength of the evidence required to disrupt the status quo arrangement, the status quo that is relevant is that which existed just prior to the parties separation, except in circumstances where there is clear and unequivocal evidence that the parties agreed to a different decision-making and residence arrangement following the separation. A status quo created by one party unilaterally taking matters into their own hands, without any consent from the other party, does not fall within the principles established in Papp v. Papp. [Emphasis added]

The Court’s Decision

The court determined that, based on the circumstances in this case, the “status quo” as asserted by the wife was not determinative. There had not been clear and unequivocal evidence that the parties had agreed to a different decision-making and residence arrangement following their separation. For the purposes of the dispute between the parties, the court found that the “status quo” was that which existed prior to separation.

The governing criteria in this case, as in all other family law cases involving children was the best interests of the child. Here, the court was satisfied on the evidence of the emotional tie between the father and daughter. There was no real issue raised with respect to the father’s parenting ability.

As such, the court concluded that it was in the daughter’s best interest that parenting be shared equally by the parents, and there was no need for a custody order. The court set out a temporary shared parenting schedule as follows:

  • the husband will have the child from Monday after daycare until Wednesday morning to daycare;
  • the wife would have the child from Wednesday after daycare until Friday morning to daycare;
  • the husband would have the child from Friday after daycare until Monday morning to daycare;
  • thereafter, the same pattern would continue but with the other parent with a rotation each week;
  • all exchanges are to be at daycare.

The court also ordered that the parties share equally in the cost of daycare.

Lessons Learned

Decisions about custody and access can be some of the most emotional and challenging to make in the wake of a separation or divorce. It is often these decisions that may require the intervention and guidance of an experienced family lawyer. At Gelman & Associates, we can help guide you through discussions with your former partner about your children. Contact us today to learn how we can help protect your rights upon separation and to ensure that the best interest of your child are maintained. Call us at (416) 736-0200 or 1-844-736-0200 or contact us online for a confidential initial consultation.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

It is not uncommon for someone to want to relocate after a divorce. If you still live in the marital residence, the familiar surroundings and memories may be too much for your heart to handle. Or in the process of reinventing yourself post-divorce you may want to take a new job, move closer to your friends and family, or simply wish to start fresh somewhere new. There are many reasons a person may want to move after going through a divorce, however if you have children you will need to think twice before making a big move.

Emotionally, it can be challenging for a child to move to an unfamiliar place. Often, they are most at ease in a familiar environment with access to family and friends. Changing schools, living in a new city or even a new house can be difficult on a child, especially after dealing with the emotional turmoil associated with divorce.

Legally, there are certain implications to relocating away from the current jurisdiction where the children ordinarily reside. Before moving you and the noncustodial parent can negotiate with the absence of a lawyer, a written agreement about the moce and any changes to visitation that may be needed. If you cannot reach an agreement about the move, you then must file an Application/Motion to the court to hear your matter and for a judge to make a decision before you move. Usually the court requires at least 30 days notice to the other parent of your court Application/Motion. It may take longer to reach an agreement with the other parent or get a court order. It is a good idea to give notice of 90 days before the move, as as soon as possible and to consult with a lawyer first. Upon receiving this notice, they can challenge your proposed change of residence or apply for a variation to the existing custody or access orders.

The leading case that sets out the legal test in determining mobility is Gordon vs. Goertz (1996) 2. S.C.R. 27

Similar to any other action involving variation of an existing custody order, the person challenging the relocation has to show that the move will result in a material change in circumstances affecting the child. Once this has been established, a judge will determine the best interests of the child in light of the relevant circumstances. These relevant circumstances include the existing custody and access relationship, the relationship between the child and the custodial parent, the views of the child, and the reason for the proposed change of residence among other circumstances. As with every other custody proceeding, the judges determination will turn on the best interests of the child. The judge’s inquiry is individualized and will involve all factors relevant to the case at hand.

Because mobility has become so easy in today’s society, often separation agreements or custody orders will address relocation and place specific restrictions on changing residences. Non-removal clauses that ban the extra-provincial removal of children without consent of the noncustodial parent. In these cases, the custodial parent who wishes to relocate will have to initiate the action by placing an application with the court.

If you are contemplating a move, you must consider the emotional needs of your child, as well as your former spouse’s right to challenge your relocation. Typically, courts only allow a custodial parent to relocate if the proposed move is in good faith and not intended to frustrate the noncustodial parent’s relationship with the child. Additionally, if a custodial parent relocates, they must be willing to accommodate the noncustodial parent’s access to the child; sometimes this means that the relocating parent will have to pay the additional costs of access.

In sum, if you are a custodial parent, moving isn’t as easy as just loading up the car and hitting the road – but it is still possible.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

No. Even when the parents are unmarried, divorced, or separated, one parent cannot keep the child from seeing the other unless the court deems it appropriate to the child’s best interests.

Historically, mothers have been more likely to get sole custody of their child in both consent and contested orders, as they are usually the child’s primary caregiver. However, as more mothers also work outside the home, courts could also rule in favor of the father.

The majority of judges strive to make decisions that are in your children’s best interest. Giving full custody to one parent is usually the best option, except in cases with concerns such as child or substance abuse. This typically means keeping in contact with and maintaining relationships with both parents.
You should do everything possible to prepare for the subsequent child custody negotiations, whether you’re a parent seeking full custody or shared custody:
Be honest with yourself about your ability to manage things alone, in terms of practicality, finances, and other factors. You may get the result you want by presenting the strongest case for custody by doing the following:

  • Make a Strategy: If custody is granted, a court will expect you to be ready. Compile thoughtful replies to hypothetical queries posed in court.
  • Speak with people who have gone through the child custody procedure before you. They may provide you advice and tell you what to anticipate.
  • Judges look for proof of a meaningful relationship in addition to making sure you can provide a child’s practical and basic needs. Simply put, be involved in your children’s lives.
  • Continue to pay child support regularly, whether you’re asking the court for full or shared custody. When you start the procedure, you’ll want to make sure you have a strong track record.
  • Keep a detailed log of your visitation schedule. This is a crucial aspect of obtaining child custody. Visitation records reflect how often you see your children under the present arrangements and your dependability, as well as dedication to them.
  • During all child custody hearings, the court will inquire about acceptable living accommodations. Even if you live in a tiny apartment, you should create a unique and secure environment for your child.
  • Courts may determine child custody in part by how you treat your child’s other parent. Being hostile or unpleasant to the other parent makes collaborative decision-making more complicated and can break apart parent-child ties. As a result, judges are more inclined to favor the parent who isn’t behaving badly.
  • While parents typically spend a lot of time thinking about what they believe is best for their children, children’s perspectives are sometimes overlooked. The court will be interested in learning what the children desire and will most likely question them directly at some point throughout the proceedings. You can better inform your decision-making by asking your child what they think.

No. Parenting time and child support are different from each other. While it is a child’s right to be provided with financial support, it is also their right to spend time with their parents. Thus, even if the child support was cancelled the parent formerly supporting can still enjoy parenting time with the child.

“There is no fixed age for when a child can say which parent they want to live with after a divorce. However, by law, a child must be 16 years old to decide on this matter. The exception to this is when there is a court order stating that a child/ren must live with one parent until they turn 17 or 18.

Under certain circumstances, it is possible to legally prevent your child/ren’s father from seeing or contacting them. It may be necessary if he presents a potential danger to your child/ren. If you were never married to the father of your child and there is no court order saying otherwise, you can do anything you want until paternity is confirmed.

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