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The Benefits of Marriage Counselling & Therapy

Published: September 11, 2012

Last Updated: September 8, 2025

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The Benefits of Marriage Counselling & Therapy

Marriage counselling and therapy can stop a divorce in its tracks – but is it the right choice for you? Even if you’ve already spoken with a North York divorce lawyer, you may be considering it. Naturally, you’ll need to let your North York divorce lawyer know if you intend to put your divorce on hold while you seek marriage counselling or therapy.

Talk to Your North York Divorce Lawyer First

Most North York divorce lawyers will recommend that if you’re even contemplating divorce, you should look into the legal ramifications. That means sitting down and talking to a lawyer about your spouse, your kids, your finances and many other things before making a decision that will affect the rest of your life.

The Low-Down on Marriage Counselling

Marriage counselling doesn’t always work (your North York divorce lawyer can attest to that), but in many cases, it does. If you and your spouse are both willing participants, counselling could change your lives for the better.

When you talk to a marriage counsellor or therapist, he or she will likely want to see both you and your spouse together. Your therapist can address your marriage in general or specific issues that you feel are causing the most trouble. Your counsellor will probably want to discuss communication problems and find out what’s causing the breakdown first. Together, you’ll all develop a treatment plan that will involve both parties making positive changes.

Finding a Marriage Counsellor or Therapist

Before trying to search for a local therapist or counsellor on your own, ask your North York divorce lawyer for a referral. Since your North York divorce lawyer has worked with several past clients whose situations are similar to yours, he or she may have several professional connections.

If you’re not comfortable asking your North York divorce lawyer (or if you haven’t spoken with one yet), ask trusted relatives and friends for referrals. You can also search for a counsellor on your own by using the Internet or your local phone directory.

Asking the Right Questions

Once you’ve narrowed your selection down to a few counsellors, it’s time to start asking questions. Both you and your spouse have to be comfortable with the counsellor you choose. You’ll also have to ask:

  • How long is each session, and how much does each session cost?
  • What is your educational background?
  • What licenses do you hold?
  • Are you available only by appointment, or can you be reached during an emergency situation?

When to Contact Your North York Divorce Lawyer

Whether you and your spouse decide to stay together or separate, you’ll need to let your North York divorce lawyer know as soon as possible. If you’ve decided to stay together, your North York divorce lawyer will support your decision and wish you well; if you’re splitting up, he or she can begin to work on your case and provide you with legal advice that will help you through the process.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - divorce & separation

If you or your spouse are not in Canada, you can not get a divorce. However, you can end your marriage under the Civil Marriage Act. You can only end your marriage in Canada and not another country because your marriage is only valid in Canada.

Yes, you can date while separated in Canada. However, there is a legal implication to that. If the timing of your new relationship comes into question during your divorce, your relationship may be considered as an affair or adultery.

Yes. Our legal services are available in person, online, and over the phone. In addition, although our main office is located in Toronto, we have over 8 additional satellite offices located throughout central, southern, western, and eastern Ontario to serve family law clients across the province.

If you are litigating your matter, social media posts made by your spouse or partner may be relevant, especially if they contradict what your spouse is claiming in his or her pleadings.

For example, if a spouse is claiming financial hardship, a Facebook post that shows that spouse going on an expensive trip or posing with an expensive car can undermine such claim and potentially affect that party’s credibility in court if presented as evidence on a motion or at trial.

Further to photograph-based posts, statements that are made on social media by one party can be relevant if said posts (i) are related to the litigation, to issues of parenting and/or (b) contradict statements that were made by the party in his or her pleadings. For example, if a party is attempting to establish that he or she is an appropriate custodial parent, then recent social media posts about extensive partying and drug use made by that party may be relevant in court, as they may speak to that party’s fitness when it comes to appropriate supervision of a child in his or her care.

Yes, you can separate from your spouse. Separation does not have to lead to divorce. However, if you plan to remarry, you must file for divorce after one year of separation. Also, you may want to consider that if you just leave, your spouse may file for spousal support or child support.

It is advised however that before leaving, you try to have a separation agreement with your spouse.

Divorce can be a difficult decision to make, especially if you’re unsure if your partner will sign the petition. However, a divorce does not require your partner’s consent. Although it may be a long process if your partner doesn’t comply, they will not be able to stop you indefinitely.

The only ground for a divorce in Canada’s Divorce Act is marriage breakdown. This could include spousal infidelity, although infidelity alone could be difficult and emotionally taxing to prove in court.

You are not legally required to retain a lawyer to apply for divorce. However, a divorce application may involve important questions about parenting, support, property and procedural requirements. Independent legal advice can help you understand how a proposed agreement or court application may affect you.

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