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Falsely Accused in Custody Disputes

Published: September 25, 2015

Last Updated: September 8, 2025

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Falsely Accused in Custody Disputes

Creating more complexities with false accusations in custody disputes

In custody disputes, claims of abuse can make bad situations worse

Child abuse allegations aggravate custody disputes. Whether counsel represents the alleged abuser or the parent making the allegation, these cases are fraught with difficulty. The issue is a sensitive one, exposing intimate family details and raw emotion which are difficult to handle. The allegations often develop a life of their own, which makes these cases a challenge to resolve. The involvement of Children’s Aid, the police or the Office of the Children’s Lawyer further complicates things, as does the risk of multiple proceedings, including family law, child protection and/or criminal.

Actual abuse suffered by children is horrifying. Its effects are permanent. Allegations should be carefully investigated. Perpetrators deserve to lose custody of, and contact with, their children. False allegations, on the other hand, direct attention and resources away from the true cases of abuse, whose impact should not be minimized.

In 2003, a study of reported child abuse based on a sample of 10,756 cases of maltreatment reported to child welfare authorities across Canada determined that five per cent of maltreatment allegations were considered to be intentionally false. The rate more than doubles when parties are involved in an ongoing dispute. In the subsample of reports made in the course of a custody dispute, 14 per cent of the abuse allegations were intentionally false. Whatever the statistics, even one false allegation is too many.

Confirmation of abuse by a physical examination only occurs in a small percentage of cases. That is because a “normal” medical examination can be interpreted in a number of different ways. It could mean: (i) there was no abuse; (ii) the damage inflicted by the abuser has healed without a trace; or (iii) the type of abuse that took place has left no physical evidence.

Assessments by mental health professionals yield similarly equivocal results. Studies show that mental health professionals have “no greater ability to find the truth, to determine the credibility of persons giving testimony or to divine either the past or future from immediate clinical observation and facts.” Research also reveals that the overall accuracy of decisions by mental health professionals on unconfirmed allegations of child sexual abuse is quite low, with the average error rate being between 21 and 36 per cent.

What happens when an abuse allegation is made? The alleged abuser should retain criminal counsel, even if just on a consultative basis, as soon as an allegation has been made. Working together, criminal and family law counsel ensure the best possible outcome for the client.

Professionals have a legal obligation to report suspected abuse to a child protection agency (CAS). Once contacted, CAS must take steps to investigate the allegation and immediately ensure the child’s safety. CAS might seek to suspend visits if the alleged abuser is an access parent or seek removal and a “no contact order” if it is the custodial parent. CAS can go to court under child protection legislation. However, if family law proceedings are underway, CAS might rely on the parent alleging abuse to address the issue. In some cases, CAS has threatened to remove a child from the parent alleging abuse if that parent does not bring a family law application to suspend contact with the alleged abuser.

If the allegation is serious, CAS will contact police and conduct a joint investigation. Parents might also report to police. Charges will only be laid when there is strong evidence and the likelihood of a conviction. If charges are laid, they dominate the family law proceedings until resolved. The “beyond a reasonable doubt” standard in criminal cases is more rigorous than the civil “balance of probabilities.” A falsely accused abuser might be found not guilty of a criminal offence, but may still be found to have abused the child in the family law proceeding, with all of the negative fallout that entails.

Most courts err on the side of caution, and limit, supervise or suspend the alleged abuser’s parenting time, either on a temporary basis pending investigation or on a final basis at trial. CAS investigations can take months. A temporary order could cause the alleged abuser to lose contact with the child for an extended period. This lack of interaction invariably damages the parentchild relationship, whether or not there has been abuse. Not only is the parent-child bond irreparably harmed, but an artificial status quo is created by the order. Status quo pending trial is not meant to dictate a case’s final result. In reality, however, it makes the alleged abuser’s case for custody that much more difficult, even if it is later proven that no abuse ever occurred.

What of the parent who makes a false abuse allegation? If the allegation is deemed false, custody arrangements will be impacted. Intentionally false allegations are sometimes an indicator of emotional or mental illness. They also reveal an inability on the part of the accuser to co-parent. In extreme cases, the making of false allegations is considered harmful and labeled child abuse. Trial judges award custody to the wrongfully accused parent in some such cases. Theoretically, the falsely accusing parent could be prosecuted for perjury or obstruction of justice. The alleged abuser could pursue a civil action for malicious prosecution or slander, but the likelihood of success is slim. Normally, the falsely accused parent wants to get on with life and does not pursue legal remedies outside of the custody case. In truth, no order could repair either the damage inflicted to the parent-child bond or a parent’s ruined reputation.

Written by Jennifer Shuber

Senior Lawyer

Certified specialist Jennifer Shuber is a senior lawyer and accredited mediator at Gelman & Associates who handles high-conflict and high-net-worth family law matters with practical, cost-effective legal guidance.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

Ontario law does not specify the age at which a child can decide which parent to live with. At most, the Court may consider the preference of the child but that does not necessarily mean that the Court will act favorably on it. The court will consider the child’s maturity, ability to articulate their desires, and the reasoning behind their views when seeking their opinion.

If a parenting plan is included in your court order under the Divorce Act, the document will be legally binding.

In order to change your child’s last name, you will have to be the child’s parent with legal custody or be the legal guardian of the child. In order to change the child’s last name, you will have to provide notice to anyone who has legal access to the child, and that may include your ex-spouse.

In most cases, the answer is no. However, there can be some exceptions that the mother can build a case upon. These include the father putting the child at risk, non-compliance with the court order, or a history of violence by the father.

Creating a custody plan with a narcissistic ex-partner is a task best left to legal professionals. While there might not be one way to deal with a narcissistic ex, there are things that you can do to turn the tables on a narcissistic co-parent. The best way to prevent problems is to go with no contact or limited contact with your ex-partner and put everything in writing if you must only communicate via email or text message to record statements and harassment.

Let us consider that the “moving away” is relocation and not just a change in residency.

Then, let us qualify that the mother will take your child with her.

If the mother is the primary caregiver of the child, you may oppose the relocation by applying the principles laid down under the Gordon vs. Goertz case. You must present your case strongly as to why potentially cutting your child’s relationship as the primary caregiver is to your child’s best interest. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(2) of the Divorce Act.

If both you and the mother have equal parenting time over your child, the mother of the child has the burden of proof as to why the relocation is for the best interest of your child. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(1) of the Divorce Act.

If there is no Court ordered, approved, or awarded parenting time or separation agreement, as contemplated under Section 16.93(3) of the Divorce Act, the mother has the burden of proof to show that relocation is in the best interest of your child.

Note that even if the burden of proof is not laid upon you, it still recommended that you present a strong opposition to the relocation.

Yes, it is possible for your ex to prevent you from relocating with a child you share, although this will likely plan on your parenting arrangements and decision-making responsibility. If you cannot agree about a relocation, a court will decide based on the child’s best interests.

Generally, you need to provide your ex with 60 days’ written notice of your relocation plan, and you must obtain consent or a court order to move the child. A lawyer can help you navigate this process. Our divorce lawyers will guide you through the application and court order process.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

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