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My Ex is Harassing Me During Our Divorce

Published: May 15, 2013

Last Updated: September 12, 2025

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My Ex is Harassing Me During Our Divorce

Divorce can be an emotional roller coaster for both parties, whether it was a one-sided decision or a mutual choice to split. While it’s normal to experience a wide range of emotions, new personal boundaries arise during divorce—and unfortunately, some people fail to recognize them. If your ex is harassing you, you’ll need to let your Barrie divorce lawyer know right away.

What Counts as Harassment?

Generally, unwanted phone calls, visits and other types of contact can be considered harassment. Of course, you and your ex will need to communicate about your kids or to coordinate plans. In most cases, however, regular social interaction stops during divorce.

If your ex sends you text messages, emails or messages through social media sites that cross the line or make you uncomfortable, it could be considered harassment. Likewise, if your ex shows up at your home or at your place of employment uninvited, especially with the intent of arguing with you or causing problems, you’ll need to involve your Barrie divorce lawyer.

How to Get Your Ex to Stop Harassing You During Divorce

Your Barrie divorce lawyer might suggest that you start by asking your ex to leave you alone. Sometimes a simple statement, such as “I feel like you’re harassing me and it’s making me uncomfortable” can help; it’s not uncommon for former spouses to have a hard time adjusting to your new boundaries. However, it’s not a guarantee—and if asking nicely doesn’t work, you’ll probably need to rely on your Barrie divorce lawyer’s experience with the law to get your ex to stop harassing you.

Legal Routes: How Your Barrie Divorce Lawyer Can Help

Your lawyer might be able to have a discussion with your ex’s lawyer to help stop the harassment. If that doesn’t work, he or she might be able to pursue legal action that will force your ex to leave you alone—however, every situation is unique, and only your Barrie divorce lawyer can provide you with legal advice and guidance based on what will work best for you.

When You Should Call Your Barrie Divorce Lawyer

If your ex threatens you, intimidates you or becomes physically violent with you, get to a safe place and notify the police immediately. Once that’s handled, call your Barrie divorce lawyer and provide as many details as you can. Your lawyer will be able to help you find the resources you need and give you advice that’s perfectly tailored to your situation.

You should also let your lawyer know if your ex is harassing you in any other way. If possible, keep track of instances of harassment in a journal, print out emails or save voicemail messages and texts; that way, you can give your lawyer all the details he or she needs to help alleviate the situation.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - divorce & separation

If you or your spouse are not in Canada, you can not get a divorce. However, you can end your marriage under the Civil Marriage Act. You can only end your marriage in Canada and not another country because your marriage is only valid in Canada.

Yes, you can date while separated in Canada. However, there is a legal implication to that. If the timing of your new relationship comes into question during your divorce, your relationship may be considered as an affair or adultery.

Yes. Our legal services are available in person, online, and over the phone. In addition, although our main office is located in Toronto, we have over 8 additional satellite offices located throughout central, southern, western, and eastern Ontario to serve family law clients across the province.

If you are litigating your matter, social media posts made by your spouse or partner may be relevant, especially if they contradict what your spouse is claiming in his or her pleadings.

For example, if a spouse is claiming financial hardship, a Facebook post that shows that spouse going on an expensive trip or posing with an expensive car can undermine such claim and potentially affect that party’s credibility in court if presented as evidence on a motion or at trial.

Further to photograph-based posts, statements that are made on social media by one party can be relevant if said posts (i) are related to the litigation, to issues of parenting and/or (b) contradict statements that were made by the party in his or her pleadings. For example, if a party is attempting to establish that he or she is an appropriate custodial parent, then recent social media posts about extensive partying and drug use made by that party may be relevant in court, as they may speak to that party’s fitness when it comes to appropriate supervision of a child in his or her care.

Yes, you can separate from your spouse. Separation does not have to lead to divorce. However, if you plan to remarry, you must file for divorce after one year of separation. Also, you may want to consider that if you just leave, your spouse may file for spousal support or child support.

It is advised however that before leaving, you try to have a separation agreement with your spouse.

Divorce can be a difficult decision to make, especially if you’re unsure if your partner will sign the petition. However, a divorce does not require your partner’s consent. Although it may be a long process if your partner doesn’t comply, they will not be able to stop you indefinitely.

The only ground for a divorce in Canada’s Divorce Act is marriage breakdown. This could include spousal infidelity, although infidelity alone could be difficult and emotionally taxing to prove in court.

You are not legally required to retain a lawyer to apply for divorce. However, a divorce application may involve important questions about parenting, support, property and procedural requirements. Independent legal advice can help you understand how a proposed agreement or court application may affect you.

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