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The Status Quo and Shared Parenting Arrangements

Published: October 27, 2017

Last Updated: October 21, 2026

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The Status Quo and Shared Parenting Arrangements

An Ontario court recently considered a contested interim parenting arrangement. In making a final decision on care and control of the child in question, the court had to determine what the status quo was in relation to decision-making responsibility and parenting time over the child prior to her parents’ separation.

What Happened?

The party’s relationship began in January 2011. The child question was born in July 2014. The parties married in April 2015, and separated in May 2016.

After several motions filed by both parties, they obtained an interim order outlining a schedule for care and control of their child post-separation. This order was subsequently contested. Throughout the later proceedings, the wife testified that the husband had problems with alcohol and that he was abusive towards her. She claimed she was the child’s primary caregiver. The mother wanted the parenting “status quo” to continue.

In contrast, the husband brought in friends and family to testify to his character. These friends and family (including the wife’s sister) described him as an excellent father and all deposed that he had no issues with alcohol or domestic violence. Evidence was provided about the “definite bond between father and daughter that is very strong”, that the daughter “idolizes her daddy”, and that the husband should be involved in all aspects of the daughter’s life. The father sought an order for joint custody, wanting shared parenting on either a split week or week on/week off basis.

Custody, Access, and the Status Quo

The legal principles applicable to custody and access and set out in s.16(1) of Divorce Act and section 24(2) Children’s Law Reform Act.

The Divorce Act outlines the factors to be considered in making a custody and access order, whereas the Children’s Law Reform Act outlines factors to be reviewed in determining what is in the best interests of a child.

In addition to the factors outlined in legislation, which a court must consider in making decisions with respect to children, a court must also determine what the “status quo” is regarding custody and access.

With respect to what constitutes the “status quo”, the court noted:

In determining the issue of whether the status quo respecting decision-making and timesharing should be changed in the context of a motion for temporary relief, it is important to maintain a focus on what is meant by the status quo. The courts have clarified that the phrase status quo with respect to timesharing does not refer to a situation unreasonably created by one party after separation to create a tactical advantage in the litigation… This court has held in many cases that the status quo that is relevant on temporary custody and access motions is that which existed prior to the separation between the parties…In my view, for the purposes of applying the principles set out in Papp v. Papp regarding the strength of the evidence required to disrupt the status quo arrangement, the status quo that is relevant is that which existed just prior to the parties separation, except in circumstances where there is clear and unequivocal evidence that the parties agreed to a different decision-making and residence arrangement following the separation. A status quo created by one party unilaterally taking matters into their own hands, without any consent from the other party, does not fall within the principles established in Papp v. Papp. [Emphasis added]

The Court’s Decision

The court determined that, based on the circumstances in this case, the “status quo” as asserted by the wife was not determinative. There had not been clear and unequivocal evidence that the parties had agreed to a different decision-making and residence arrangement following their separation, for example by creating a parenting plan. For the purposes of the dispute between the parties, the court found that the “status quo” was that which existed prior to separation.

The governing criteria in this case, as in all other family law cases involving children was the best interests of the child. Here, the court was satisfied on the evidence of the emotional tie between the father and daughter. There was no real issue raised with respect to the father’s parenting ability.

As such, the court concluded that it was in the daughter’s best interest that parenting be shared equally by the parents, and there was no need for a custody order. The court set out a temporary shared parenting schedule as follows:

  • the husband will have the child from Monday after daycare until Wednesday morning to daycare;
  • the wife would have the child from Wednesday after daycare until Friday morning to daycare;
  • the husband would have the child from Friday after daycare until Monday morning to daycare;
  • thereafter, the same pattern would continue but with the other parent with a rotation each week;
  • all exchanges are to be at daycare.

The court also ordered that the parties share equally in the cost of daycare.

Lessons Learned

Decisions about custody and access can be some of the most emotional and challenging to make in the wake of a separation or divorce. It is often these decisions that may require the intervention and guidance of an experienced family lawyer. At Gelman & Associates, we can help guide you through discussions with your former partner about your children. Contact us today to learn how we can help protect your rights upon separation and to ensure that the best interest of your child are maintained. Call us at (844) 736-0200 or contact us online for a confidential initial consultation.

Written by Lisa Gelman

Senior Lawyer

Senior Lawyer Lisa Gelman has over 25 years of family law experience and founded Gelman & Associates to provide strategic legal counsel in family law matters concerning divorce, parenting, separation, and more.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

Ontario law does not specify the age at which a child can decide which parent to live with. At most, the Court may consider the preference of the child but that does not necessarily mean that the Court will act favorably on it. The court will consider the child’s maturity, ability to articulate their desires, and the reasoning behind their views when seeking their opinion.

If a parenting plan is included in your court order under the Divorce Act, the document will be legally binding.

In order to change your child’s last name, you will have to be the child’s parent with legal custody or be the legal guardian of the child. In order to change the child’s last name, you will have to provide notice to anyone who has legal access to the child, and that may include your ex-spouse.

In most cases, the answer is no. However, there can be some exceptions that the mother can build a case upon. These include the father putting the child at risk, non-compliance with the court order, or a history of violence by the father.

Creating a custody plan with a narcissistic ex-partner is a task best left to legal professionals. While there might not be one way to deal with a narcissistic ex, there are things that you can do to turn the tables on a narcissistic co-parent. The best way to prevent problems is to go with no contact or limited contact with your ex-partner and put everything in writing if you must only communicate via email or text message to record statements and harassment.

Let us consider that the “moving away” is relocation and not just a change in residency.

Then, let us qualify that the mother will take your child with her.

If the mother is the primary caregiver of the child, you may oppose the relocation by applying the principles laid down under the Gordon vs. Goertz case. You must present your case strongly as to why potentially cutting your child’s relationship as the primary caregiver is to your child’s best interest. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(2) of the Divorce Act.

If both you and the mother have equal parenting time over your child, the mother of the child has the burden of proof as to why the relocation is for the best interest of your child. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(1) of the Divorce Act.

If there is no Court ordered, approved, or awarded parenting time or separation agreement, as contemplated under Section 16.93(3) of the Divorce Act, the mother has the burden of proof to show that relocation is in the best interest of your child.

Note that even if the burden of proof is not laid upon you, it still recommended that you present a strong opposition to the relocation.

Yes, it is possible for your ex to prevent you from relocating with a child you share, although this will likely plan on your parenting arrangements and decision-making responsibility. If you cannot agree about a relocation, a court will decide based on the child’s best interests.

Generally, you need to provide your ex with 60 days’ written notice of your relocation plan, and you must obtain consent or a court order to move the child. A lawyer can help you navigate this process. Our divorce lawyers will guide you through the application and court order process.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

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