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Grandparents Obtaining Custody (Decision-Making Responsibility) Over Their Grandkids

Published: June 3, 2024

Last Updated: October 1, 2026

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Grandparents Obtaining Custody (Decision-Making Responsibility) Over Their Grandkids

The well-being of a child can be as important to a grandparent as it is to a mother or father. Although most cases dealing with access and decision-making responsibility (formerly custody) are brought by parents, a grandparent may also seek a parenting order. While federal law does acknowledge grandparents’ rights in Canada to request access to a grandchild, final decisions will vary on a case-by-case basis. We asked family law lawyer Negin Sari from Gelman & Associates for more information about grandparents and their role in decision-making responsibility over grandchildren.

What Rights Do Grandparents Have in Access and Contact With a Grandchild?

Although there is no automatic right of access, according to the Children’s Law Reform Act, grandparents have the right to apply in court for a contact order with their grandchild. A judge will use a test based on the best interests of the child to determine whether access (parenting time) should be granted to a grandparent.

This test will consider a child’s overall emotional, psychological, and physical well-being in the presence of their parents, grandparents, or other related individuals. It may also take into account the child’s preexisting relationship with the grandparents.

Do Grandparents Have Any Rights in Parenting Plans and Decision-Making Responsibility (Custody)?

The Children’s Law Reform Act also states that a grandparent can apply to the court for a parenting order respecting decision-making responsibility (custody) over a child. Applications by grandparents for decision-making responsibility are generally considered when both of a child’s parents are unwilling or unable to provide full-time care.

Courts and judges will consider a wide variety of factors in determining what the best interests of the child are. Under Section 24(3) of the Children’s Law Reform Act, these factors may include:

  • The child’s day-to-day needs
  • The child’s age and stage of development
  • The nature and strength of the child’s relationship with their parents and grandparents
  • Each parent’s willingness to support the child’s relationships with other parents, grandparents, or relevant figures
  • The history of the child’s primary caregiver and whether there have been changes
  • And more

If the court determines that the involvement of a grandparent in decision-making responsibility is in the best interests of the child, the request may be authorized. If you require legal assistance about how to apply for decision-making responsibility or your grandchild’s best interests, schedule a consultation with our family law lawyers at Gelman & Associates today.

Can a Parent Deny a Grandparent Visitation?

 A parent can deny a grandparent visitation with a child so long as the parent can prove they are acting in the child’s best interests. If a grandparent has been withheld from visitation by a parent, they have the right to apply for a contact order or decision-making responsibility. In Ontario, applications by grandparents for contact orders have been denied when such contact is deemed adverse to the child’s best interests. Whether a contact or parenting order is granted will be subject to the opinion of a court or judge.

Do the Best Interests of the Child Include Relationships With Grandparents?

The Children’s Law Reform Act specifically states that the nature and strength of a child’s relationship with their grandparents plays a role in a child’s best interests. Courts in Ontario have also previously expressed that maintaining positive relationships with extended family members can be beneficial to children. If it is found in court that the maintenance of a child’s relationship with their grandparents is in their best interests, contact orders or decision-making responsibility applications may be approved.

Schedule a Consultation for More Information about Grandparent’s Rights

The connection between a grandparent and their grandchild can be extremely valuable. Although grandparents are not automatically guaranteed access to their grandchildren, there are legal steps a grandparent can take to preserve the relationship. When pursuing a contact order or decision-making responsibility as a grandparent, professional legal advice can be beneficial. Our family law lawyers at Gelman & Associates can help file court applications and provide guidance about how a child’s best interests may be affected. Schedule a consultation for legal assistance on grandparents’ access in family law matters.

Disclaimer: For specific legal advice on your family law matter, please consult with a family law lawyer. The content in this article is not intended to act as legal advice and is instead intended to act as a general overview of a legal topic.

Written by Negin Sari

Lawyer

Family lawyer Negin Sari brings a resolution-focused approach to family law, drawing on her criminal law background and deacdes of experience in the legal field to make a difference for clients.

Frequently Asked Questions - child custody & access

Ontario law does not specify the age at which a child can decide which parent to live with. At most, the Court may consider the preference of the child but that does not necessarily mean that the Court will act favorably on it. The court will consider the child’s maturity, ability to articulate their desires, and the reasoning behind their views when seeking their opinion.

If a parenting plan is included in your court order under the Divorce Act, the document will be legally binding.

In order to change your child’s last name, you will have to be the child’s parent with legal custody or be the legal guardian of the child. In order to change the child’s last name, you will have to provide notice to anyone who has legal access to the child, and that may include your ex-spouse.

In most cases, the answer is no. However, there can be some exceptions that the mother can build a case upon. These include the father putting the child at risk, non-compliance with the court order, or a history of violence by the father.

Creating a custody plan with a narcissistic ex-partner is a task best left to legal professionals. While there might not be one way to deal with a narcissistic ex, there are things that you can do to turn the tables on a narcissistic co-parent. The best way to prevent problems is to go with no contact or limited contact with your ex-partner and put everything in writing if you must only communicate via email or text message to record statements and harassment.

Let us consider that the “moving away” is relocation and not just a change in residency.

Then, let us qualify that the mother will take your child with her.

If the mother is the primary caregiver of the child, you may oppose the relocation by applying the principles laid down under the Gordon vs. Goertz case. You must present your case strongly as to why potentially cutting your child’s relationship as the primary caregiver is to your child’s best interest. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(2) of the Divorce Act.

If both you and the mother have equal parenting time over your child, the mother of the child has the burden of proof as to why the relocation is for the best interest of your child. This situation falls under the purview of Section 16.93(1) of the Divorce Act.

If there is no Court ordered, approved, or awarded parenting time or separation agreement, as contemplated under Section 16.93(3) of the Divorce Act, the mother has the burden of proof to show that relocation is in the best interest of your child.

Note that even if the burden of proof is not laid upon you, it still recommended that you present a strong opposition to the relocation.

Yes, it is possible for your ex to prevent you from relocating with a child you share, although this will likely plan on your parenting arrangements and decision-making responsibility. If you cannot agree about a relocation, a court will decide based on the child’s best interests.

Generally, you need to provide your ex with 60 days’ written notice of your relocation plan, and you must obtain consent or a court order to move the child. A lawyer can help you navigate this process. Our divorce lawyers will guide you through the application and court order process.

Yes, but they will need to establish paternity, especially if the father and the mother separate. Here are the ways to establish paternity as recognized by the court:

  • Act of birth
  • Presumption of paternity
  • Uninterrupted possession of status
  • Voluntary declaration

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